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FunWithUsernames
The thing about #3 is that it’s so brutally abused as an excuse by super self-centered ppl to keep being that way.
badatediting
#3 toxic people will not ask for your energy. They will demand it.
Yyyeeel
I'm just here for being here. I really don't have nothing to live for
Yrmsteak
I wonder what it would take me for to shout at a server. I think they'd have to do something much more aggressive+offensive than shout 1st
kobun253
#7 my therapist warned me of this. It true. Reminds me of Lewis from the Oregon trail. He finished this great task and then kills himself
patta8388
#3 took me a 5 year relationship and 3 years of marriage to realise this.
kobun253
#2 my cats won't know what happened and that makes me feel worse than being alive does
ImFragileOops
#2 really got me.. i didn’t really know others had enough similar experiences for it to actually be acknowledged like this.
GlebReawer
There are several of us. It's just that a lot of us have learned to be like chameleons to not burden others.
Praethius
#7 yeah this, this sucks
anarchoFeline
#7 congrats on the adhd
executivechimp
#3 "Put on your own mask before attempting to help others." -Airline Safety Notice
Skrange10
#7 me too, this is part of my ADHD and medication helps with this! It's a chemical imbalance. Don't blame yourself, schedule an appointment
Crowlands
#3 As my doctor once told me, and several therapists agreed: I can't keep setting myself on fire just to keep someone else warm.
TheDarknessInTheHeartsOfMen
My therapist calls this "weaponized compassion"
TheLovelessHummingbird
Could you please expand on that? I keep having trouble understanding how to be nice but not too much,
muffingirlization
#2 is me completely
shotty814
#5 You are a bold one! Brought me this bowl of rats so I'm having bowl of rats today. Bowl of rats, not a fave. It's fine. I'll make do.
BL4UPUNKT
The 'inconveniencing others is bad' override!
RevolutionOnHerLips
the trick is to eat half there, then ask for a to go box to take the rest home and eat later while watching TV
JustAnotherRandomCommenter
i'd tell them they'd brought me the bowl of rats by mistake... not for me, but because someone out there isn't getting their bowl of rats!
cabbageisdelicious
I'd ask for a to go box. They're my buddies now it's rat-napping time.
keenidiot
Gotta use ketchup. Lots and lots of ketchup.
LdaQuirm
... Mr Dibbler, is that you?
keenidiot
Depends. Do I owe you money?
FloodingWaters
#2 and a S/O to those doing it for spite. I see you. Don't let the bastards grind you down.
Snooj
#7 You guys are feeling a mild sense of relief?
ElBarbu
I'm just glad we're all here
Chrisxdxl
#2 I didn't cause my Mum would be sad, there are people who love you. People who would miss you.
YggdrasilG
For me, a life with high-prescription glasses and ADHD has given me the object permanence of a toddler with horse blinders on.
YggdrasilG
If I don’t see the ball anymore, who’s to say if I dropped it?
neilwatkinsfromaccounting
wannafresh1
McRib?
heartlessninja6
Be well.
Bigblunt83
EltaninDracoPwc
RideTheStimutacs
Are you experiencing joyjoy feelings?
IDontLoveJesusButDoItAnyway
reichstein
Mother, I desire rat rangoon! Mother... the rangoon... mother!
Giantmutantcrab
I just hope it's better cooked then the thousands of raw "medium rare" steaks I see in my youtube feed. That uncooked shit is repulsive.
YouAreTheInsultMaster
/gallery/zOexoA0
Sarpedan
ikr? that isnt medium rare, thats blue, if it was any more raw it'd still be mooing
RosieGarden
#5 Took me a second to realize they were talking about people who serve you food instead of computers who serve you websites.
LocalPumpkinHero
#3 they will just keep asking for more. I learned the hard way, too. Now I'm alone bc I had surrounded myself with toxic people. Progress ?
LocalPumpkinHero
bc you have to cut the toxic ones out before the healthy ones show up. Now I have to figure out where healthy ppl hang out and go there.
MasterChristopher
I'm not suicidal, but I sure could stand to have people letting me know they care. Thing is, I don't really give them much reason to care...
AlexSomething
#3 First aid is like that too: when you arrive on the scene of an accident, the most important person you must care about is YOU >
AlexSomething
> you first, bystanders second, and the victim LAST. Seems counter-intuitive but you know how to save them and you don't want more victims >
AlexSomething
> so you prioritize your safety, make sure bystanders don't also become victims & when you've secured the site, you take care of the victim
PacMan4Life
Ok, that sense of accomplishment one hit pretty hard. And I wonder why I don't want to do anything anymore
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
I’ve worked for years to learn how to give myself a break, to feel proud of myself. Self-worth issues are a motherfucker. Hang in friend!
Theory89
I'm still trying to figure out self forgiveness. I just do not get it.
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
Look at your younger self as someone you know. Maybe they made mistakes. Have they grown? Learned even a little? You’d prob think they…
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
…we’re dealing with shit pretty well and you’d give them a break right? Why not do the same for yourself?
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
I’d bet you deserve to give yourself a fucking break! Life is fucking hard and you’re doing your best. ?
Theory89
.. no. I'm not dealing with shit well at all. I'm a drug addict who's wasting their life and the effort others put into me.
jdcream
#2 hit me hard...
Catterverse
At this point I'm waiting for my dad to pass first. I know my death would break him. So I keep going until then at least.
JabesMcJabesface
You are not alone.
GlebReawer
Working on it, tho some days the thread is very, very thin. But today will not be that day, fuck you depression. I decided you lost today.
BobbyVegana
kid better grow fast, I can't hold this any longer
LdaQuirm
Ooof. Yeah... T_T I'm doing better atm though.
voxael
Yeah. I wasn’t expecting to be seen today. And definitely for this
chainedm
I'm alright.
gabicraina
LeoSalt
To be really, really honest, that is very selfless and shows that ppl who do that are NOT the ones who should go, at all. Caring that much
LeoSalt
About how others would feel if you did it is a sign you are one of the good ones - at least that is my two cents
jdcream
LocalPumpkinHero
Whole lotta truth right here. I've been through hell and I kept going. Things are better now. I have to believe the same could be true for-
LocalPumpkinHero
-others who currently feel the way I once did. It's not all puppies and rainbows, but it IS better. More good than bad, even. ???
Uninipple
I agree, I’ll gladly give battery levels 3 and 4 away, to put simply. I’ll just get by with 1 and 2 till the recharge.
GlebReawer
Thanks for these words. I'm still walking my path, but I have help and the path has become a little easier lately.
MrStickyCheeks
#3 This was me in 2017 when my mom passed 12/11 & grandmother passed 12/26. Trying to be the family member to help all the other family
LeoSalt
Happened to me too, but with friends who weren't friends - I helped them, tried to be there for them 100% did everything for them..
LeoSalt
I'm still in therapy, but thank God I was strong enough to realize I needed it and then immediately made the step towards it.
MrStickyCheeks
I wish I went to therapy, never too late I guess. But through it now and doing what I can to live well and for myself.
LeoSalt
Yup, never too late - I was never suicidal cause I can't stand the thought of death - but depression is still rampant, though less so now
MrStickyCheeks
Members near and far. Grandmother was my dad's mom, so it was both sides of the family. Everyone decided I was the point of contact.
MrStickyCheeks
I didn't realize it until... oh my wedding happened 6 months later so I was pretty happy around then, but that comfort was hiding my
MrStickyCheeks
Struggle. Married the love of my life and couldn't find any happiness. Still can't but it's for 50 other reasons than that stressful part of
MrStickyCheeks
My life. Don't try to give everyone 100%. Give what you can to keep you in reality.
lordofthedice
#5 I mean, if they refused to bring me my food and insisted I'd ordered rats, I might have some choice words for them.
SirButcher
I think I still wouldn't yell, stand up & leave. If they stop me from leaving, try to force feed me rats I think that where yelling starts.
Snooj
"I'm terribly sorry but I choose not to pay for this bowl of rats that is clearly not mine."
RevolutionOnHerLips
Waiter: Yes it is. Manager: Are you trying to leave without paying for your food? Cops: BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BANG?BA
Snooj
"Well, I must have deserved that for being so rude."
kanybal
It's the disrespect. I know because I can't imagine yelling at a waiter or retail employee, but boy do I yell at my students who lie to my-
kanybal
Face about disturbing the class, disrespecting me, my work, and more importantly anyone trying to actually learn
Gaelwyn
Yuck. You shouldn’t be yelling at anyone.
kanybal
I knoooow. Gods know screaming matches with teenagers are useless. But I do have to handle their bullshit hour after hour day after day and
kanybal
Believe me it's beyond hard. I am thinking of quitting, but honestly, there's noone to take my place and do it better unfortunately