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Jun 1, 2017 4:32 AM
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#feminism
depressedgirly
I think it's really bad that needs pointing out, people stop abusing people!!
RMaybeth
I have had all these things happen from women i was in relationship with.i am supposed to take it tho there's nobody i can whine to, no cops
BookOfLeviticus
You can't be abused by your S/O if you don't have an S/O
TheTrueQuarian
If a chick starts hittin me she better be ready for a roundhouse kick to the ovaries.
TheNiteWolf01
My ex (F) slapped me (M) twice in public. Nobody did anything. Glad I'm out of that relationship.
Grenther
Try that the other way around and see how people respond...
TheNiteWolf01
Probably differently than what happened when she hit me. Thanks for the reply, though, I think you're the first person who I've told (1/2)
TheNiteWolf01
who actually acknowledged that something wrong happened. I mentioned it to a few people, but no one actually said anything. (2/2)
Crispyock
My ex once put me in a choke hold until i heard my trachea crunch. She let go. I slammed her into the wall.
Crispyock
She was 5'1" im 6'1" i felt like i was dying. I hated her for quite a while after that.
Crispyock
She got pissed because 'I didnt really hurt you. '
drasun
What the actual frick. That's fucked
providedlava
"Im a girl im to weak to hurt you!"
RMaybeth
in that case i understand why she/s your ex and ought to damn well stay that way.My wife pulls almost the same shit.
in2i2on
Tbh, there is a thing called a love tap. Smacking my butt when I'm cooking is playful. Op is right about abuse, but there's some wiggle room
SendMeAllTheMemes
100% agree
SquatOnmylalala
Yes! Its crazy that it isnt obvious..
makeollimadame
i hate *cute slaps* that girls do. regardless of the pain it prob doesnt cause, you're delegating yourself into a "weaker sex" position.
makeollimadame
ie. dont expect to be treated as an equal
JarethTheGoblinKingsBulge
Well I'll be safe. You have to actually get a girl to be around you for that.
CrimeThinker
Wander in a desert or something for 40 years if you need to conquer thirst.
sandybuttcheeks
Hahahaha..ha.. ahh... shit ..
jb13760
Turkfergguson
That's the spirit!
SivoServoDommyDervo
Don't encourage alcoholism Jeff!
Xfilerone1
Amen!!! Preach it brother¡!!!
JawaLol
It's not the physical abuse coming from women. It's the mental.
Grenther
It's both, but mental abuse is way more common.
Sjuulebuul
THIS is feminism to me. This is what I belive in, this is what the world needs to see and be.
fredlinkage
True that. It hurts just the same. Unless it's your kink! But all jokes aside it's abuse no matter what the gender.
iamireland
A partner once hit me on the arm (with no real force) and pushed me away when she was mad at me. I said, "If this is going to get physical-
iamireland
-you're probably not going to like how it turns out." and she never did it again. So I guess I'm lucky.
deformedclowntorturebasement
Nah, you're just kind of a dick for threatening her with violence.
iamireland
There is absolutely nothing controversial about defending myself from physical assault. It was the best way to diffuse the situation.
raidleadergutts
As opposed to her being an angel for actually committing an act of violence?
iamireland
It was really quite mild, but I still won't tolerate violence as an emotional reaction. She was a pretty chill girl in her way.
popejubal
Nah, he's kind of cool for letting her know that it's not okay to hit him.
deformedclowntorturebasement
Could have gone about it in a better way is all I'm saying, instead of implying that if she hits him again he'll beat the shit out of her.
iamireland
Like what? "Please stop being irrational" isn't a plea one can expect to work. I just warned her that I intended to defend myself.
aneeda
Women can be assholes without labelling them "feminist".
ARegularOldPlumbus
I don't think they're the ones being labelled feminist- I think it's the idea put forward by OP, which is 100% an idea held by feminists.
aneeda
Some.
sureasyourebornyourenevergoingtoseenounicorn
Plumbus is correct
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ohaiwirefly
Totally agree. My mother has been slapping my dad around for years. She tells stories about it later like it's cute and funny. It's not.
MyHouseOnMars
My dad dated an abusive woman for years. I hated seeing him put up with it all. I tried to convince him that it wasn't healthy or right.
Velvetdragon
i hope you have told her this
ohaiwirefly
Hell yeah, not that it matters. My dad and brothers will defend her, she will act stricken and abused, I seem to be the only one bothered.
Velvetdragon
well at least you step up an say some thing
ohaiwirefly
Well, you know, I love them. Don't feel like there's any other choice.
iamireland
Mal would be proud of you.
srslydude
My mother does that, then when he tries to step away from the situation, she acts like he's abandoning the family or avoiding responsibility
ohaiwirefly
Not a psychologist but I think she has borderline personality disorder. You might look into it for ideas on how to cope. Very toxic people.
SyrupAndSpaghetti
I have borderline.. Not all of us are toxic.
srslydude
her mother is very similar. My siblings and I think she just never grew up.
anygirlx
I made my boyfriend my husband and now it's legit! I'm not an abuser if he married me. ( That was sarcasm btw. )
anygirlx
I shouldn't joke. He was in an abusive relationship 15 years ago and he is still leary. It took a while to accept that he truly is fearful.
anygirlx
Because that's so outside my nature. She did damage for sure.
pastryzerotire
Never had a girlfriend hit me. Just female family members telling me to "man up and stop complaining" and "Im a girl, it doesn't hurt you"
f4ble
Psychopaths and boobs are a dangerous combination. Equal pay for women, but we still have to "Man up". Fight for equality is one sided.
Corona688
It's the same sexism that hurts both.
Nicste
Treating you like that is just as bad. Telling you to man up when you're upset with something or showing negative emotions is neglectful.
CubicLies
Girl bit me in the first grade, i punched her in the throat. Teacher thought i was in trouble but the principal said wtf bitch bit him
DefinetlyNotObsessed
Same happened to me but the principal agreed with the teacber
Reilynn
This is feminism. Not that misandry that some people will try to use as an excuse for being a jerk. You go, girl!
sureasyourebornyourenevergoingtoseenounicorn
Grenther
I think it'd fall more under egalitarianism
Corona688
Unfortunately, scumbag fake-MRA rape apologists have sullied most other possible terms. "Feminism" is what's left. They're stuck with it.
theyar
No, it isn't feminism.
raidleadergutts
Yeah, sadly the majority of feminists attack & threaten the minority of feminists who acknowledge this.
Reilynn
I don't think it is really the majority; I think they are just very loud.
Corona688
I don't think they're even speaking in places that matter. They're loud on TV and twitter
Reilynn
Real question: How are you defining "places that matter"? What criteria do you use?
Corona688
Politics and actual work, vs random bitching at strangers. A lot of MRA's disqualify themselves this way too.
WowSoSparkly
Yes, when we speak about male issues, THAT is feminism. Ok buddy.
Corona688
Unfortunately, scumbag fake-MRA rape apologists have sullied most other possible terms. "Feminism" is what's left. They're stuck with it.
raidleadergutts
I love how feminists constantly shit on men & when people talk about men's isssues, some of which they create, they try to hijack them.
WowSoSparkly
You tried.
raidleadergutts
And I succeeded. Thanks for noticing though, it means a lot.
WowSoSparkly
The straw you tried to grasp wasnt even there, you fucking dumbass. Go to your dudebros for validation, theres none here.
wouldyouthough
Does this include constant criticism? Asking for a friend
Grenther
Possible, been in one like that w/ lots of guilt tripping n manipulating. Nothing I ever did was good, really good at setting up a catch 22
wouldyouthough
Sounds familiar... I don't seem to have the required skills to deflect it or argue my side without it becoming about me being bad
bthighlander
Can be emotional abuse. Your partner should be a blessing not a curse. They should help you be the best you can be and vice versa.
providedlava
Talk to her. She may not even realize shes doing it. If shes dealing with anger or resentment unrelated to you- its not yours to deal with.
wouldyouthough
Pretty sure there's underlying family issues. I've said to her before and she's recognised it but its not changed. Might try see a counselor
textilelover
I told my sister we couldn't hang out w/ her and her husband as long as she was so mean to him. It was too awful. We'd call her on it.
providedlava
"Whatever this is, it isnt about me. When youre ready to talk, well talk. *walk away*" has worked for me in the past. Good luck!
wouldyouthough
I'll give it a shot thx :)
GuestChrist
A truly feminist thing to say. I mean that in the best way possible.
theyar
It's really not. You can bullshit all you want, but ad long as it's called "feminism" it isn't and will never be about equal rights.
Corona688
Scumbag MRA rape apologists have tarnished most other terms,using them up one by one then reinventing themselves. "Feminist" is what's left.
theyar
That's not true and doesn't make sense.
Corona688
Sadly, it is, and does. Watch for the ten million freaks that crawl out of the woodwork whenever the subject comes up.
CRXtasy125
I knew this girl who would fight with her BF and yell "come on, hit me you pussy." Pushing and slapping him. Bf was a very patient dude.
lilskank
This was me. The ex would poke, prod, punch, scream etc if she was pissed. Even threatened me at knife-point a couple times. >
lilskank
threw things at me, too. It wouldn't stop until I would break and engage her. Most of the time I either had to walk out or shove her away >
lilskank
in self defense, but only when I actually believed my life was threatened. We were both shitty people though, especially together. We were>
lilskank
the worst things that could have happened to eachother. All the cheating, manipulation, slandering, fighting and screaming. Ugh. I could>
lilskank
write SO many shocking stories about the shit we did and went through. A day with only an hour of screaming was a great day for us.
peruuuuuuuusin
Curiosity here: could she have maybe been into a certain kink, and tried to bring something out in him? Or was she a thundercunt?
MissAizea
She probably was abused, or her mother, and was trying to recreate that dynamic, because that's what you think love is.
peruuuuuuuusin
It's incredible how much we unconsciously propagate a method of interaction until we're shown a better way...
CRXtasy125
She seemed to want to belittle him in front of his friends. She has problems to this day. That guy left her.
Ronelyn
Feminist. Totally agree. Brother had the crap (emotional and physical) kicked out of him by a woman. Begged him to split w/her.
TheOlsenTwins
Vegan. Also totally agree here.
NotOnMyChronometer
I'd go so far as to say that I think this is true *because* I'm a feminist. That's not what I was taught growing up conservative.
OSCgal
Conservative over here, but also pacifist. None of us were to hit people or treat them cruelly. Ever.
NotOnMyChronometer
I was taught that with words. I wasn't taught that with actions, not by my parents, school, or church. That was my experience.
OSCgal
I'm sorry you grew up surrounded by hypocrites. It's never right.
Ronelyn
Absolutely. Same here.
mechanicalchaos
Thank you. I was raised conservative as well and it's a dysfunctional mindset on both ends. Women have to obey, but also aren't culprit
littlemorte
And if you think that it's still ok you don't love him, you don't even know what you want. He doesn't need a monster like you.
RMaybeth
lol monster... some of them are, not just men, women too sometimes.
littlemorte
? This comment says the woman, in this scenario is the monster....
IHaveACatNamedGustav
Or she, or if you are a he and the other one still is a he but could also be a she, this still aplies.
littlemorte
It's in response on to what the post says. Of course no one should treat their love one in that way
Barbaraquechickain
As a female feminist, I agree. This isn't a novel concept and the people who disagree with this most often are non-feminist men. Just a note
HOCNOMINEESTFICTUS
Accurate. I'd disagree, but that only proves your point, doesn't it?
causality
inb4 you get downvoted to hell for saying the patriarchy doesn't exclusively benefit men.
raidleadergutts
People who disagree with this most are feminists who refuse to believe men can be abused in any way. You're just delusional.
cleverbeans
I can't imagine how you came to this conclusion. Feminists have been fighting the abuse against men since the 1900s.
raidleadergutts
Yeah, I'm sure all the feminists who attacked & threatened Erin Pizzey herself for saying that they should help men as well thought so.
cleverbeans
That will happen when you spread misinformation to promote a personal agenda that actively harms people. It's not unique to feminism.
raidleadergutts
Sure that's what drove Erin Pizzey away & not feminists actually attacking her for supporting equality. Stop trying, you're just ridiculous.
valkrez
My mother caught me belittling my HS bf and told me the fuck off for it. Explained that I can't speak to him in a way I wouldn't want to-
muwah
My mom heard me speak to my HS boyfriend unkindly once. She told me to hang up my call told me to quit being a jerk. Message was received.
valkrez
Be spoken to and that in general, it's. Shitty way to talk to someone you care about. That lecture really stuck and as an adult I can't-
valkrez
-Stand when I see that shit coming from either side of a couple.
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valkrez
K
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Vurses
Good on your mother for putting a stop to it and good on you for realizing your wrongs.
valkrez
Sometimes parents gotta parent, lol
ElectroDragonfly
I hit my boyfriend at my 17th birthday party. Dad sat me down and told me the fuck off too. I made myself stay single for a long time to 1/2
ElectroDragonfly
Think about how to treat people. It's been 3 years, hope I'm ready to be a real girlfriend at some point. I think I can try again.
TheOlsenTwins
Jesus christ is it really that difficult to not hit people?!
ElectroDragonfly
It was a mentality. It was thinking, "I'm better than everyone else and that makes anything I do to them okay." You have to relearn.
f4ble
How do you reach a point where you think you're better than anyone? I usually struggle to think I'm just as worthy as the rest.
valkrez
Do you remember why you thought that was an ok reaction? In retrospect I realized that I was mimicking things which I had observed as a kid
ElectroDragonfly
Yeah, totally! I thought it was okay because kids TV had a lot of Girl Power Look at this Girl Who Steps On Boys and this was a Good Thing.
valkrez
Lol, right that makes sense
EndUserLicenseAgreement
As a dude who was stuck in an abusive relationship for way too long, it sounds like you may be ready.
ElectroDragonfly
Thanks, man. I sounded more confident than I really am about it, so I appreciate the encouragement. Hope you're doing okay.
EndUserLicenseAgreement
Just ask yourself, "if my grandma saw me now, would she be horrified?" and there's your answer. And ya I'm alright.
killernat
unless its consensual and your into that sort of thing
mrtmartin937
Totally appropriate...
RubNipNotgay
is it not?
mrtmartin937
Not even slightly
RamenFlavourPacket
Maybe if you werent such a hard ass you would have more points
mrtmartin937
Oh no low internet points, what a pleb!
CephalopodLodge4
Or they are tiny and it is adorable when you lightly push them away or lift them up
OctopusOccult
I homestly feel weird choking my girlfriend and i am always worried i am doing it too hard.
bronypokey6918
agreed
SuckItBlue
Honestly, I'm into the chocking bit where you block off the bloodfliw, but I haven't met many girls that are into the same thing.
pookieeatworld
ALWAYS DISCUSS THIS BEFOREHAND.
080080
i'm proud of you, son.
fionnmcbride
Hybris51129
AlphaDoll
Oh I am definitely into that sort of thing
EvilFerret55
Damn, I need that Seinfeld gif. 'Not that there's anything wrong with that'
jasonddgs
DeadMemeCentral
BigTruckRegularPenis
I like my GF to slap me during sex.
casweb
You have to at least have a safe word.
stevetehpirate
You're into that sort of thing!
FreshWater13
I love doing that to people who are into it
HurryUpIGotNuts2bustButtstoFuckndSlutstofuckinUppercut
Spit on an awesome girl while she gave me a bj... it was so fucking hot
OZVerti
Easy there Chris Brown
divitu
No, people who ARE into it.
waterbucketsandsparetowels
Yuhhhh
iamlurkerllama
IM INTO IT
JohnnyDeppNecromancy
Me too
imaginaryPeppers
"Harder big boss"
Mycologics
"It's a bipedal nuclear weapon system Big Boss"
Mycologics
"They played us like a damn fiddle boss"
Hawkner
*Staff morale increased*
YourWaifuIsTrash
"Thanks for that boss"
HitlersArtCritic
*Staff morale increased*
loodinidus
"aye b0ss"
sckrlfe
I do not consent but i am into that sort of thing.
nosaucesbutapplesauces
Safe word!
RubNipNotgay
bananas
IHateYouMyselfAndEveryone
Consentual non-con. That is what that's called.
IReadEverythingInMickeysVoice
No. If you flat out say that you don't consent, that is not CNC. I'm really into anal, but I'm not gonna stick it in just anyone. 1/2
IReadEverythingInMickeysVoice
CNC is when you consent before hand, and pretend that you don't consent. And you should always have a safe word. *The More You Know!* 2/2
IHateYouMyselfAndEveryone
First, it's a joke, lighten up. Second, that is what they said.
aFuckinChair
*you're
Easystin
*yo
sycophant92
Killernat just got corrected by aFuckinChair.
Xannacor
IcommentMostlyWithGifs
raidleadergutts
Maybe their into bad grammer.
ThemHardNutz
He is?
MrNlceGuy
Your'ere
boobphysicist
yur*
fudgepuppyorangecake
A WIZARD HARRY
CthulhusGreasyBallsack
*yore'u
TheMightyKibbless
*yurt
SpookyPillows
WSGilbert
*yarp
Grievuuz
rocketdonkey
Shitty people come from both genders
TotallySaneScientist
They usually come out of vaginas.
chloramphenicolderivative
Yeah, but the government defines bad things as something only men does. Example: duluth model.
PMMeAnimeThighs
Also rape laws, which state that only the victim can be penetrated, essentially making women immune to the charge of rape.
exoskeletonsforcats
and all countries/religions
James19961996
ALL genders, shitlord.
OurLordAndSaviorRoger
LIESSSSS
LadyLorelei
Here's rocketdonkey to remind you that men commit abuse as well in a post about men being abused. Just in case you forgot. Patriarchy.
MrMantastic
*WOOSHING INTENSIFIES*
rocketdonkey
That wasn't my point though. People of both genders can abuse. That's it. Nothing more.
rickytickytavi545
Yep
JasonWaterfaIIs
But the worst ones are the opposite side... *picks up 'Team A' flag* "wow, fuck that guy".
RawDogginChixSince2000Six
Speebo30
http://www.extrafabulouscomics.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/sports.png
Ynigmatik
Picks up team A flag. Shoots teammate. Hm... friendly fire works
PrematureOP
Are you assuming genders!
rocketdonkey
I was honestly a bit in doubt whether to put gender or sex there.
PrematureOP
Haha just messin
bigfoot2389
God think Bill Nye says there's like 52 genders or something.. ( poor sarcasm due to beer)
bigfoot2389
And I see my typos now.... Good thing.. sigh
polymetricr
What about god thinking bill nye thinking there are 52 genders?
AluminiumFalcon
I think he meant good thing, not god think.
bigfoot2389
One to many beers last night. Didn't see it until after I hit submit.
saltandsunshine
Drop the 5 c:
bigfoot2389
Oh I agree. I just saw the post awhile back about him saying something like.... Lost a lot of respect for him with that nexflix show.