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My brother has served 8 out of 10 years in prison. He is getting out for good behavior possibly this month. I honestly wish they would keep him in there 5 more years (he is very violent). When we was younger i was very very close to him he was my best friend, but he wanted to be involved with gangs, drugs, and robbing people. When i decided i didnt want to live in that lifestyle anymore i wanted him to drop that life with me. He plainly looked at me and said "fuck you lil bitch i dont need you around me" so i walked away thinking he will figure out that these people in the gang will never have his back like his family. That never happened, he thinks i abandoned him because a few days after he told me that "he dont need me around" he was shot multiple times in the chest, back, leg, arm, and almost got him in the head. In the hospital my entire family prepared for the worst untill the doctor said he will make a full recovery and its a miracle he is alive. The bullets missed his heart and lungs by centimeters. My family and i are relieved because we think he would definitely be done with that stupid lifestyle that almost killed him. !!NOPE!! He learned absolutely nothing so that exact same year the police set up a sting to get my brother in the act of selling drugs needless to say they got him. Again my family thanks he will learn a lesson from his mistakes. We are wrong again he is being even more violent in prison so his sentence gets extended to 10 years. After a few years of no contact my mother wants us to talk. It didnt go well lots of screaming and cursing thats when he informs me that he absolutely hates me and wishes death on me. So a few more years after me cutting contact with him I progressed my career bought a house and eventually want to start a family. My mom lets me know that he is coming home and she wants me to be there to greet him when he gets here. I dont think thats is going to happen, also he is going to stay with my parents for a while so he can get things going in his life so it looks like i wont se him or my mom for a long.
Thanks imgur for letting me vent a bit sorry if the story was all over the place
Woah fp action thanks imgur for all the support i definitely will keep you guys updated
Follow up He told me he hates me https://imgur.com/gallery/4Tzi3
Glassman62
If he’s under 40 he’ll go back. After 40 it seems to kick in that kind of life sucks and they’d better change. Good luck, protect yourself.
Tiefighter6
Been down that road with a family member. Hide yo kids, hide yo wife...no seriously, things will end up missing.
SuCkAtwatBoOgiee
At least one person in your family has sense. Your brother is damaged goods and blood ties do not absolve him of the garbage he is.
ILikedTheirOldStuffBetter
You're in no way obligated to see him anymore. You've gitta look out for yourself & your future plans.
LeaRae90
You made the right choice to stay away from someone toxic and dangerous. If he's changed, you'll see it through actions, not words.
seanchris16
Personally as much as it would make your family angry you need to distance your self not to get hurt. If he reaches out then make contact.
seanchris16
Good luck my friend I wish you the best, hopefully your brother will be a better person.
stilmatic78
His gang affiliation wont stop once paroled. Your parents are blinded and will have hardships in the near future. Stay away.
stilmatic78
2/2 Lived this with a cousin. This type of felon rarely changes due to institutionalization and inability to conform to society.
Darkspire
Stay away. Most family isn't blood.
JmARCANGEL
OP I'm sorry this happened. Sometimes people get lost. I hope you can forgive him anyway.
Cantfindmybirthcertificate
If I were you I'd keep my distance too no matter what others will say, so don't feel bad about it. Your life and happiness comes first
skullyb1
Institutionalized. Predatory. Just when you start to feel safe around him is when he will strike. That’s all he’s known in there. Be careful
Sooothisonethyme
100% this, he WILL emotionally and mentally control/abuse those around him aka OPs parents, cause that's what he has done in gang and prison
ChallengerDeep
Some folks are naturally bastards. Not the environment's fault.
OliverClothesoff70
True but if you put a natural bastard into that environment, they don't tend to improve. They tend to get much, much worse.
stephensgroup365
If he hates u then I hate him. So there.
LSparkles
Awww. Me too!
DownVoteVerifier
And me too damit!
Mowch
Your parents might release where you live to your brother, just a heads up
forreallyandfortrue
Release hell, chances are his new address is somewhere in their house & he'll find it.
kogamikirito
"Iv waited 8 years to see you, little brother. Don't worry, your family died quickly"
dhakahlon
If you introduce him to Imgur, you will make him a better man
BanesOnAPlane
Not so sure about that one. Plenty of toxic people on here
CrocodileDunphy
Former inmates always find a way to become prisoners again. Don't worry, he won't last long until he will be locked up again.
napalmEnema
Fuck that, stay away. Your parents are idiots, I know I have a set like them and a drug using sister similar to your bro.
miahtSuperVillain
Stay away from him
Omnimorph2112
Don't see him. Give him a chance to prove to you he's changed, but he let you and your family down more than you let him down.
Omnimorph2112
It's on him to show you that he's worth having in your life.
PhailRaptor
I'd argue that OP didn't let anyone down
DirkNurple
He’s trying to manipulate you. Don’t put up with it. He doesn’t hate you. He doesn’t love you. He just sees you as a mark that he knows well
ilovecake
If getting shot multiple times won’t set you straight, little else will. Prepare for disappointment and lock away anything of value.
xcalibur33
I appreciate that ill make sure i do that
ilovecake
You’re welcome. Also, really sorry you and your family are going through this. Can’t be easy, but you know we’re all here for you!
MissBunnycakesMarshmallowBooty
Do not let that toxicity back in ur life or in ur house, now that u r on track. Do not let ur mom pressure u either. U owe him NOTHING! 1/
MissBunnycakesMarshmallowBooty
2/ Just because u see n know truth about him & tried to get him out-u did everything right. Dont sacrifice ur life just 4 family peace!!
hellofromafar
Reminds me if my brother. In and out of jail for the last 15 years. Fuck em. They choose there life. Don't get drug down with them
IgnatiusJReilly2601
Did you just use 'drug' as the past tense of 'drag'?
hellofromafar
Well it does appear that way. Proof reading is important
Blackbird2Raven
I don't think you should be there when he is there. You have a family to think of now. If he gets triggered, he may take it out on them.
KalYahna
Make sure all your insurance is up to date in case he steals from you. Make sure your locks are good. If your parents have a key to your 1/
KalYahna
house, get it back from them or change the locks. Set your boundaries and keep them. Your mom can always come to visit YOU, but if she 2/
KalYahna
tries to guilt you into seeing your brother, shut it down. Boundaries are healthy to set and KEEP. /3
ThankGoodnessYourHerePrematureEjaculationMan
Dear Lord YES! Change the locks! I honestly did not even think of that!
KalYahna
Wish I could give you an extra upvote for the Whose Line reference. :D
Daeyelle
My brother, after being given ~10 chances to settle down, finally did so. Don't just cut off any chance of him coming around
Sooothisonethyme
How many years did that 10 chances spand????
Daeyelle
Around 6-8 years
LokiShinigami
Had me worried for a moment, cause I am in fact releasing 3 inmates at 12:01am on tonight's shift. But this doesn't sound like my offenders
dogiecat
work stories plz
SexDrugsBirdsandRocknRoll
Why do you release them in the middle of the night?
RidingDragonsWithoutALicense
Jail break
InLoveandUnderPaid
I wonder if it's because they are serving a sentence that ends on a certain day. The earliest they could be released is 12:01am that day.
CrazyWithTheCheeseWiz
As of 12:01 am the day after your sentence ends you are technically free.
LokiShinigami
This is the correct answer
LieutenantGordon
I too am curious about this
McGiant
Me too
ARetardedLemur
Probably to not draw a lot of attention
HisNameIsPawl
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. The family you choose is more important, save yourself from toxic relatives
Wattsupdoc
Except for his brother’s gang
HisNameIsPawl
What?
Wattsupdoc
His brother chose the gang over his family, now he’s in jail
chiefs86
I always hnng when I see someone use the 'blood is thicker than water' anecdote correctly.
CyberAkuma
Actually, people only started claiming that recently, there are no known historical sources that say that was the original.
CyberAkuma
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_is_thicker_than_water#Other_interpretations
SomeCrazyNerd
But it is a bible quote.
goxpal350
Guard your parents valuables cuz they will disappear. Find out his parole officer keep him up to date. Good luck.
ilovecake
I’d even argue to change all locks, just in case what he retrieves of his belongings upon release includes a key.
yourmotherandIthinkyoushouldmoveout
SpiderSalad
I dont think telling him to rat on the gang affiliated super violent brother that hates his guts is very good advice lol
ElGeeMFMiller
Some people really haven’t lived. You’re exactly right, ratting gets you nothing, but potentially hurt. Just stay as far away as you can.
CokedUpPancake
This should definitely be higher
silentwolf1999
This. Once a thug, always one. My step brother was the same way, stole my dads heart meds, stole booze, begged money from his mom.
Tarmaccian
Often the parents will cover, too. They think they can help him get back stable by letting him take just a bit more.
bart147
I disagree, people can change. Unfortunately they usually don't.
Kaysmira
Yeah, it is definitely possible, if unlikely.
aznanimality
I disagree, people should be given second chances. But in OP's case, his brother was given several already and destroyed them.
falliblepanda
If your parents have a key to your place, ask for it back or change the locks.
Muffyns
@op this^
xcalibur33
No my parents live 2 hours away with no key to my home
xRocketman52x
No need to scare the kids or anything, but best make sure you're entire immediate family is in the loop. No letting relatives in unannounced
BlahBlahMeatEater
If his parents can't take precautions that's on them.
HalloIamherenow
Probably insanely difficult to admit your kid is a screw up. He's still their child after all
guvnaar
But the parents will come to him for help when they lose everything catch22
CommentsWithGandalf
Hindsight is 50-50, it never hurts to warn someone ahead of time and dispense useful advice.
myUsernameWasAlreadyTakenAndIHaveAcceptedMyFate
I think its more that they are delusional about him having changed and therefore doesn't see the point
Ragequitmonkey
Hindsight is 20/20.
Maahes0
My family learned my uncle had been stealing from my grandma for years and had been manipulating my parents and aunt to distrust eachother..
Maahes0
We only found out after my grandma died and everyone finally got together to talk about certain items they had been promised by my grandma.
Maahes0
The entire sterling silver set my mom and aunt were to split was gone (est val $10k+) as well as other other heirlooms.
Sooothisonethyme
Sorry to say, but it sounds like they didn't visit enough to check on 'the items they wanted' when she eventually died.
Maahes0
They were "in storage". My uncle lives with my grandfather, my dad visits often, we don't loot the house loke an RPG.
theshinobi23
OP said they don't plan to have any contact, if at all possible. But OP should inform their parents of this advice.
Stratego89
Their parents are clearly too stupid to listen to good advice.
DrBojangles
Love can be blinding, especially for parents. They don't want to see what he has become. My parents do the same thing with my sister.
Icecold11111
Parents love is unconditional. My grandma loved my uncle who did terrible things. All 7 other kids despised him but she said he's her son
Stratego89
If you really love someone, you do not let them go down this road, and continue to by "having faith they'll do better".
Icecold11111
"Let" what are the options here?
Icecold11111
And that she will always love him. My dad said he never understood it until my sister started getting into drugs and robbing 7-11s, now
Icecold11111
He will do anything to help her. Has given so much to her and done so much to try to help and she has just taken advantage of. It's the
MemorableName
He won't be out long.
VerifiedApproves
I work with his kind. Heading right back.
mph5mph
A bit sad. But probably true.
bigdaddyfatpants
PV new bit....see ya
Awesoman66theCactusLord
Some people are just an unfixable brand of broken and dillusioned. Basically, the people who populate those damn gangs
iampandahearmeroar
I think everyone is fixable but some people just don't want to be fixed or think they need to be
jewjiffshoes
It's the top of the bottom.
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mmurrbles
I think we should send them to Mars
AdventurerOliver
Eventually it'll become one big Australia
kookyabird
Trying to reform someone like his brother is like trying to convert people's views on politics. Good fucking luck.
GloriousPubes
Thats the general idea of prison, but it rarely ever works out.
MrMagoobar
Prison trains criminals to be better criminals
BeetsByDwight
This is true. I work in a facility and watch kids come in who made a dumb mistake turn into monsters as adults. Even their speech changes.
pizzabortionist
Prison is what you make of it. There is the opportunity to heal, or network with criminals. Sauce: 10 years out after 3 years down.
MrMagoobar
Hey man that’s great. I was speaking about general statistics but im glad it helped you out.
ThisIsGod
Prison is what you make of it, but prison in America does not foster healing and recuperation. It's about revenge and depriving rights.
pizzabortionist
Very much the case. When people advocate for prison time because someone did wrong this is all i see /a/VMAsw
xcalibur33
I agree i give him 2 months
PardusXY
If bullets won’t change his mind, jail won’t.
josanReactionPrince
Please keep us updated
AgentHitler
Oh yeah?, i'm checking back in 2 months BOI also im ruining your 911https://gyazo.com/ea20ddbe4f5021e24ed584c79f454238
darman123
Please keep yourself safe
WakeMeUpB4UpostPost
Unless he murders you, maybe sooner,
TheZoid
Write him a letter, just consider it maybe he will read it and write them monthly
TheZoid
Not saying he will change but maybe it will help one of you two.
latinsaint
Some people are just really stupid. Congrats on turning your life around.
noxmeter
That's too generous.
peaceloveandgraffiti
If he had that attitude before going jail, then hands down he's institutionalized like a muhfucker. He'll be right back in jail in no time.
xcalibur33
Im sure he is but if he actually wants a positive relationship with me he's gona have to jump through hoops
JayEnfield
Cut a hole through his ceiling and take a shit through it.
CallahansLawRefutesEntropy
I don’t get that reference
Xankatu
Keep the distances, mate. Be careful. You have become his reflection and will hate you even more for that: You are what he will never be.
IAlwaysEatGlue
So How'd it go?
xcalibur33
Not horrible I posted another confession bear on my profile
Hammsammiches
Don't go see him. He doesn't care about you, don't care about him.
TripleDeuce
i worked in the Austrailian Prison system. some of them don't even make it out of the car park.
Shiftyeyesshady
A particularly dim witted cousin of mine was bailed out of jail by his ex girlfriend, who had a restraining order against him.
Shiftyeyesshady
They immediately rearrested him on release for violating that order because she never had it rescinded. So ill take your parking lot and
Shiftyeyesshady
Raise you the front door.
CraftedLine
Crazy. Almost the exact same thing happened to my brother, minus the violence! He gets out in a couple months. I'd say be at the coming 1
CraftedLine
Home party, you're still family. It hurts when your brother dies! He may have learned his lesson. He may have not wanted you to see him in 2
CraftedLine
That situation. Just go by yourself. If he acts like a prick then hug your parents and leave.
Azukare
keep us updated please. i dont wanna hear about your brother hurt or kill you or you parents
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AVoiceOfReason
How would you hear about it if he was killed? >_>
BabbleBox
Username checks out.
xcalibur33
He is scheduled to get out at the end of this month I'll definitely keep you guys updated
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Can I keep your porn collection if he kills you?
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Be safe man, if red flags ever go up then get out of that situation regardless of what situation it is.
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