The text I received from my mother on Commencement Day

May 14, 2017 12:47 AM

BeautyChaos

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So for background my mother is a sociopath. She was a drug addict and is currently an alcoholic. She spent my teenage years out at bars and romping around with her boyfriend. She emotionally abused my brother and I as well as physically abused me. I finally got to the point where I disinvited her from my graduation because she is consistently disrespectful and rude to my grandmother and the rest of my family. She's screwed up my credit score when I was a teenager so I have to work my way up now. I had made a Facebook post about this and apparently she went snooping around today after all my graduation pictures were posted. I'm moving forward into a new chapter in my life and I don't need a mother who will willingly say hurtful things to her children and make everything about her. Just because they're blood doesn't make them family. #bad mom #mothersday #mothers_day

Oh here's my graduation cap tax. I'm a first generation graduate with a Bachelor of Fine Art, and did it without any help from anyone. I'm truly proud of where I've come.

TLDR; My mom is a massive cunt, I kicked her out of my life and I graduated college on my own with a BFA.  

FP Edit: Thank you for all the positive comments and thoughts! I really appreciate them all! Also, I don’t know why all the bashing of BFA. I went through a great Visual Communication program (Graphic Design) that’s ran by a communications college and I plan on being a UX/UI designer. I already have a full time paying job lined up!

OH OH OH!!! I know this person!!! Is it possible to be famous through association?! Cuz I def feel da fame! P.S. Congrats again!

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Sounds like my mother in law. We got a text similar to that before our wedding. Congrats. You're better off without the negativity.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

As someone who recently disowned their mum, I'm really proud of you internet stranger. Enjoy your new job and more positive life.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Delete her number. I deleted my father's looong ago after I figured he didn't want anything to do with me. far as I'm concerned he's dead

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I wish I could get to that point emotionally.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I guess for me it was the fact that he tried to kill my brother and pretend to care afterwards.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I just graduated from KSU last Tuesday as well. Honestly I remember seeing the design on your cap. Congrates on graduating.

9 years ago | Likes 40 Dislikes 0

Go Owls!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Kennesaw state in Georgia

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I remember you! @Apachhee

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

congrates huummmm

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

My mom is the same way, she is worthless and I haven't talked to her in years

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

Just because she's your mother doesn't make her your mommy.

9 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 1

+1 I scrolled down specifically to find this.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

"You are more screwed up than I am." Well that's a pretty low bar.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Lol, my mom told me she hopes I never have kids because they'll end up more screwed up than I am. Thx mom, love you too. /s

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Between the abuse if my step mom and step sis, I don't even want a family of my own. I'd rather be alone from now on.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

My mom was an abusive sociopath too! Cutting her out if my life was one of the best decisions I've ever made! Congratulations to you!

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

You and grandma be like

9 years ago | Likes 824 Dislikes 5

I almost clicked it. Damn I'm high.

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

lol I laughed heartily at this one!

9 years ago | Likes 165 Dislikes 1

Where's the kick?!?

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 3

We all know what's coming. Seeing it would reduce its power.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Hey, completely tangential to the point but I just graduated from KSU on Friday too! Congrats!

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Assuming it's KSU as in Kent State University that is.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Also, congrats on cutting toxic bullshit out of your life.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I legally emancipated myself from my mother at 16. Never been back. Best decision ever.

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 1

Being able to recognize that it's her issue, not yours, is huge. Congrats on that and the degree!

9 years ago | Likes 1518 Dislikes 2

Almost more important, Congrats on the job!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yuge

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

i don't think i've ever seen a top comment in most viral with no comment replies, so i replied.

9 years ago | Likes 59 Dislikes 1

Took 25 years to realize this with my own mom after seeing a counselor.Graduated last Saturday with my M.Arch, it's like a new lease on life

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Same. It was like seeing the world for the first time. Realising that your parent is flawed is a tough thing that goes against nature.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I know that feel.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

That's true. My mom sent me to a shrink, thinking that I had a problem with while she's been having problems with everybody.

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

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9 years ago (deleted May 14, 2017 1:40 PM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

Shrink: clinical psychologist. Saving others the googling

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Shrink is a derogatory term that devalues the importance of professionals in the field of psychology. :(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Really? It's considered derogatory? I had no clue lol. I always just saw it as slang.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Delete her contact info and block her number.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Lol, I didn't need to do this because my mom is a retard and broke her phone after a text conversation with me, and she replaced it with a

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

new phone, with a new number. What a retard. (She broke her phone out of anger about the combo, btw.)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

She may be your mother, but she ain't your mommy! -Mary Poppins

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Four for you, OP, you go OP! Also I love your cap, I wish my school had allowed decorated caps.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

To everyone who commented giving positive thoughts and messages thank you so much! I'm very much proud of my accomplishments, and I'll keep

9 years ago | Likes 47 Dislikes 2

Thank you for your story as well. It helped me feel less ashamed of not wanting to celebrate mothers' day.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

My mom was a super bitch to me on my grad day too. Didn't say a word. I wish I had never invited her! It ruined my day!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

On going through this crazy life.

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

If KSU is Kent state in ohio, I think I was at your commencement!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I drove through Kent yesterday! And grad. from there in '86! You go and live a good, happy life!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Awesome job! I went through something similar. Never forget how amazing you are, not many get through that and come out on top! Congrats!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Nice cap. Yo momma a bitch. Sorry you have one like that

9 years ago | Likes 27 Dislikes 1

KSU like Kennesaw State?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I was thinking Kansas State

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm wondering Kennesaw too because I go there!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Hang?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

That's where I go!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hang?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

UI/UX is a good field... Not surpeise u have a job lined up already...

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

It's fun and challenging!! Good luck @OP I'm sure you'll do well!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

File police reports for anything you didn't open yourself. Dispute them with the credit companies. Don't let her crap mess up your future!

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 0

This.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

It's pretty much impossible to recover from it. My best friend has a mom like this and has been trying for a decade. It's still in the 500s.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Has your friend filed police reports and disputes with the credit bureaus? I would consider a lawyer to get all of it off if that didnt work

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I just finished a finance class and I learned that if you can prove that it wasn't you they are required to take it off your credit report.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Anyway this cake is great, it's so delicious and moist

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Now there's no use crying over every mistake

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You just keep on trying till you run out of cake

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

graduated with a blank firing adapter? Sorry, the military humor kicked in. Congrats OP!

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

As of this point 120k people have seen this post and 99% think your mom is a dumb ass, so just know, it's not just you.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Fuck off @op 's mom

9 years ago | Likes 323 Dislikes 3

Is it a rule that your mom has to be a terrible person to use this site?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

She sounds like a narcissist

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Fuck OP's mom? Well... Mike Rowe is always available for the dirtiest jobs.

9 years ago | Likes 67 Dislikes 1

Oh my God there was a dirty jobs marathon on yesterday that I was watching....I love this man

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Remember the golden rule! Don't stick your dick in crazy

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

SHIT I was going to say this exact thing.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

... If I'm already crazy can I do it then? I really like the crazy ones.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Lol it cancels out like when i do it to my cat we both are animals so it cancels out...

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I know this feeling all too well. The last straw was when she said "How old do you have to be before I get to stop caring about you?" lul

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

apparently 23. That was 5 years ago. :P

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Swear to god my mother is the same. They both probably have Antisocial Personality Disorder. Not fun.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

My mom has Borderline. Super not fun, I agree.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

well done for being strong. My mother too is a cunt and getting rid of her is one the best decisions i ever made.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 1

Hear hear.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Same. Cut both my parents off about 6 years ago and I couldn't be happier. Easily the best decision of my life.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

KSU? Kennesaw state??? Go owls!

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

HOOTY HOOT GO OWLS

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Who?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Small world. Grew up down the street from KSU

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I didn't go there, but live nearby. Hello local peeps!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I live like 30 minutes from Kent State

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Shit. I thought Kansas State University. Too many KSU

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

No it's Kent State.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Can't read, can't write, KENT STATE!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Maybe but still.. KSU like Kennesaw State?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Kent State had a commencement today, so my bet would be Kent State.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

@op which is it? (I personally think it's Kansas State University)

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

My mom wasn't terrible, but she doesn't stick up for me when my bitch sisters complain about me and my wife not having kids. They all have

9 years ago | Likes 379 Dislikes 13

Your wife is your primary family now. You don't have to heed your sisters' self-righteous opinions.

9 years ago | Likes 31 Dislikes 0

Angry at you...for *not* having kids...? I don't...I mean...I failed this class so many times:

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Sorry about your stupid sisters!

9 years ago | Likes 108 Dislikes 1

You need to calmly tell them how often you rawdog it, and ask how much sperm they suggest you leave inside of your wife.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Why is it up to your mom to say something?...you're a grown ass person.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 6

I didn't expect this comment to blow up. Haha, it's a tricky situation that would take more than a small comment thread to explain.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Lol well that makes me feel slightly better :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hahaha also reading your other reply to someone I see you're a fellow Utard

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Sorry about your horrible mom op.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

I'm so sorry. My kids are my life; anyone else's decision about having them, including my kids', is none of my business I will stand 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Up for you both, if you want. I'm a grandma now, and I take no shit from anyone.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Like how does that even impact them? o.O

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

That would be my question too. But then, I never did pass this class:

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Jealousy and regret probably. Jealousy of all the free time, money & better future if they do have kids, regret at not waiting to have kids.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Well, you see. Many people feel that the way they live their lives is the only right way to do it, and any deviation is wrong.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

This too. People are entitled to their opinions but trying to force other people to live by their view and ethics is wrong.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

my mom convinced me I was mentally retarded until I was about 20

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I wasn't convinced, but my mom tried that too when I was young.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Dang that's messed up.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

yeah its somewhat strained our relationship

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

My mom tried to convince me my crippling anxiety and depression were imagined and wouldn't let me seek treatment for them when I was a teen.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Lol, fuck her. In therapy and on meds and I finally feel like I'm living life, no thanks to my mom. Cheers to teachers who care.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

MGTOW for life. They hating because we can do basic cost/benefit analysis.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 9

Funny, I just saw someone talk about those guys yesterday.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

MGTOWs and radical feminists are interchangeable

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 4

Not really, champo

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

How so?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

If you remove any gender pronouns from the crap MGTOWS and radfems say, it's often impossible to tell which group the person belongs to.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Oh yeah my loan debt isn't too bad and I have a full time job lined up and I start in two weeks!

9 years ago | Likes 194 Dislikes 2

Congratzzzz

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Hey man, u can pick ur friends, and u can pick ur nose But u can't pick ur friends nose. No what I mean?

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Gratz on your job and your graduation @op!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Goooood stuff

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Congratulations! That's awesome!

9 years ago | Likes 33 Dislikes 0

Thanks! :)

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

That's awesome! What was your focus in fine arts? In one year I hope to be where you are in life. I can hardly wait.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm a Graphic Designer. My BFA is through a college of Communication.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

kids and are living semi terrible lives and are in mountains of debt. I will still have students loans, but they are waaaaay smaller.

9 years ago | Likes 212 Dislikes 5

The oddest part of coming from parents means you were raised to respect having offspring as an enterprise. Outside that, people still whole

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

What?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sorry, typing cut out where I was going.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I lost the end of what I was typing... Just that we are raised (usually) by families to respect creating your own family after them

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Jesus ... what did they buy?

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0

Children. Too many children.

9 years ago | Likes 56 Dislikes 0

Sheesh, they should have waited until they were on sale.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

One reason I will neeeeeever have kids.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Adding this to my longass list.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

............ how much per kid and where do you buy them? For a friend.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

they aren't as tasty as certain sources claim. i mean um, that's what i hear, anyway.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

We estimate roughly 2 million dollars per kid, paid over 18 - 20 years.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Exactly, 5 kids for one, another has 6 kids. My parents are religious, so they expect us all to procreate like rabbits.

9 years ago | Likes 41 Dislikes 0

Disgusting.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Which is funny because God said to us be good stewards and responsible. ...

9 years ago | Likes 26 Dislikes 1

That's what I'm scared of the most with my future family. I'm not burying myself in debt and poverty just to 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0