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So for background my mother is a sociopath. She was a drug addict and is currently an alcoholic. She spent my teenage years out at bars and romping around with her boyfriend. She emotionally abused my brother and I as well as physically abused me. I finally got to the point where I disinvited her from my graduation because she is consistently disrespectful and rude to my grandmother and the rest of my family. She's screwed up my credit score when I was a teenager so I have to work my way up now. I had made a Facebook post about this and apparently she went snooping around today after all my graduation pictures were posted. I'm moving forward into a new chapter in my life and I don't need a mother who will willingly say hurtful things to her children and make everything about her. Just because they're blood doesn't make them family. #bad mom #mothersday #mothers_day
Oh here's my graduation cap tax. I'm a first generation graduate with a Bachelor of Fine Art, and did it without any help from anyone. I'm truly proud of where I've come.
TLDR; My mom is a massive cunt, I kicked her out of my life and I graduated college on my own with a BFA.
FP Edit: Thank you for all the positive comments and thoughts! I really appreciate them all! Also, I don’t know why all the bashing of BFA. I went through a great Visual Communication program (Graphic Design) that’s ran by a communications college and I plan on being a UX/UI designer. I already have a full time paying job lined up!
FearToNone
OH OH OH!!! I know this person!!! Is it possible to be famous through association?! Cuz I def feel da fame! P.S. Congrats again!
shopgirl316
Sounds like my mother in law. We got a text similar to that before our wedding. Congrats. You're better off without the negativity.
Redandpurpleunicorns
As someone who recently disowned their mum, I'm really proud of you internet stranger. Enjoy your new job and more positive life.
DualSupernova
Delete her number. I deleted my father's looong ago after I figured he didn't want anything to do with me. far as I'm concerned he's dead
thewhifflingtit
I wish I could get to that point emotionally.
DualSupernova
I guess for me it was the fact that he tried to kill my brother and pretend to care afterwards.
Apachhee
I just graduated from KSU last Tuesday as well. Honestly I remember seeing the design on your cap. Congrates on graduating.
lillascrilla
Go Owls!
Apachhee
Kennesaw state in Georgia
douchecanoe259
I remember you! @Apachhee
Curiousone545
congrates huummmm
BigD93
My mom is the same way, she is worthless and I haven't talked to her in years
IThinkYouGotAFineBrainJack
Just because she's your mother doesn't make her your mommy.
tootermctooterson
+1 I scrolled down specifically to find this.
emkev
"You are more screwed up than I am." Well that's a pretty low bar.
thewhifflingtit
Lol, my mom told me she hopes I never have kids because they'll end up more screwed up than I am. Thx mom, love you too. /s
maymay1588
Between the abuse if my step mom and step sis, I don't even want a family of my own. I'd rather be alone from now on.
BrazilianThunderPanda
My mom was an abusive sociopath too! Cutting her out if my life was one of the best decisions I've ever made! Congratulations to you!
ImCheckingNames
You and grandma be like
kstreet88
I almost clicked it. Damn I'm high.
BeautyChaos
lol I laughed heartily at this one!
DudeManBob
Where's the kick?!?
NegentropyX
We all know what's coming. Seeing it would reduce its power.
Bummmmblebeetuna
Satanslittlechariotsoffailedpotential
Hey, completely tangential to the point but I just graduated from KSU on Friday too! Congrats!
Satanslittlechariotsoffailedpotential
Assuming it's KSU as in Kent State University that is.
Satanslittlechariotsoffailedpotential
Also, congrats on cutting toxic bullshit out of your life.
nukethelizards
I legally emancipated myself from my mother at 16. Never been back. Best decision ever.
doomsdayaddams
Being able to recognize that it's her issue, not yours, is huge. Congrats on that and the degree!
Tilden
Almost more important, Congrats on the job!
iloveithere
Yuge
SinaminIsMyUsername
i don't think i've ever seen a top comment in most viral with no comment replies, so i replied.
hobotaco
Took 25 years to realize this with my own mom after seeing a counselor.Graduated last Saturday with my M.Arch, it's like a new lease on life
EdwardMacaroniFork
Same. It was like seeing the world for the first time. Realising that your parent is flawed is a tough thing that goes against nature.
thewhifflingtit
I know that feel.
Khassius
That's true. My mom sent me to a shrink, thinking that I had a problem with while she's been having problems with everybody.
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NoLollygagging
Shrink: clinical psychologist. Saving others the googling
thewhifflingtit
Shrink is a derogatory term that devalues the importance of professionals in the field of psychology. :(
lTookTheCookieFromTheCookieJar
Really? It's considered derogatory? I had no clue lol. I always just saw it as slang.
WellWellWellLookWhoItIs
Delete her contact info and block her number.
thewhifflingtit
Lol, I didn't need to do this because my mom is a retard and broke her phone after a text conversation with me, and she replaced it with a
thewhifflingtit
new phone, with a new number. What a retard. (She broke her phone out of anger about the combo, btw.)
96DAWn
She may be your mother, but she ain't your mommy! -Mary Poppins
NonConformistFlamingo
Four for you, OP, you go OP! Also I love your cap, I wish my school had allowed decorated caps.
BeautyChaos
To everyone who commented giving positive thoughts and messages thank you so much! I'm very much proud of my accomplishments, and I'll keep
Wadup
Thank you for your story as well. It helped me feel less ashamed of not wanting to celebrate mothers' day.
kungfucatattack
My mom was a super bitch to me on my grad day too. Didn't say a word. I wish I had never invited her! It ruined my day!
BeautyChaos
On going through this crazy life.
schectergryphon
If KSU is Kent state in ohio, I think I was at your commencement!
peopleareweird
I drove through Kent yesterday! And grad. from there in '86! You go and live a good, happy life!!
LJ02201
Awesome job! I went through something similar. Never forget how amazing you are, not many get through that and come out on top! Congrats!
UrsusDerpus
Nice cap. Yo momma a bitch. Sorry you have one like that
mynameismoreoriginalthanyours
KSU like Kennesaw State?
UpvoteFairy3001
I was thinking Kansas State
greendpinky
I'm wondering Kennesaw too because I go there!
mynameismoreoriginalthanyours
Hang?
realfakedoorssss
That's where I go!
mynameismoreoriginalthanyours
Hang?
BigQA
UI/UX is a good field... Not surpeise u have a job lined up already...
prettykitties
It's fun and challenging!! Good luck @OP I'm sure you'll do well!
sammi0285
File police reports for anything you didn't open yourself. Dispute them with the credit companies. Don't let her crap mess up your future!
thewhifflingtit
This.
wearymalaise
It's pretty much impossible to recover from it. My best friend has a mom like this and has been trying for a decade. It's still in the 500s.
sammi0285
Has your friend filed police reports and disputes with the credit bureaus? I would consider a lawyer to get all of it off if that didnt work
sammi0285
I just finished a finance class and I learned that if you can prove that it wasn't you they are required to take it off your credit report.
LaDeDa5
Anyway this cake is great, it's so delicious and moist
readthebio
Now there's no use crying over every mistake
dreadpiratekhan
You just keep on trying till you run out of cake
Dougal15
imgonnawreckitagain
graduated with a blank firing adapter? Sorry, the military humor kicked in. Congrats OP!
MrTay
As of this point 120k people have seen this post and 99% think your mom is a dumb ass, so just know, it's not just you.
originalusernamethatmakesyoulaugh
Fuck off @op 's mom
FilthyFrankOcean
Is it a rule that your mom has to be a terrible person to use this site?
Chickenchaserr
She sounds like a narcissist
04FoxSake
ilovedogsbutmineisanasshole
Oh my God there was a dirty jobs marathon on yesterday that I was watching....I love this man
BorkfortheBORKGod
Remember the golden rule! Don't stick your dick in crazy
thewhifflingtit
SHIT I was going to say this exact thing.
LadiesInboxMeYourInsecurities
... If I'm already crazy can I do it then? I really like the crazy ones.
Temptationsmeowmix
Lol it cancels out like when i do it to my cat we both are animals so it cancels out...
gingen
I know this feeling all too well. The last straw was when she said "How old do you have to be before I get to stop caring about you?" lul
gingen
apparently 23. That was 5 years ago. :P
MoonlilyMilk
Swear to god my mother is the same. They both probably have Antisocial Personality Disorder. Not fun.
thewhifflingtit
My mom has Borderline. Super not fun, I agree.
Akitosh
well done for being strong. My mother too is a cunt and getting rid of her is one the best decisions i ever made.
thewhifflingtit
Hear hear.
cleverbeans
Same. Cut both my parents off about 6 years ago and I couldn't be happier. Easily the best decision of my life.
Frnchman12
KSU? Kennesaw state??? Go owls!
wilburx
HOOTY HOOT GO OWLS
robbo03712
Who?
SirGingerbeard
Small world. Grew up down the street from KSU
AshtaMonogue
I didn't go there, but live nearby. Hello local peeps!
Peppersworth
I live like 30 minutes from Kent State
warlord007
Shit. I thought Kansas State University. Too many KSU
PaulSmackageFromGrapevineTexas
No it's Kent State.
HorribleWifey
Can't read, can't write, KENT STATE!
mynameismoreoriginalthanyours
Maybe but still.. KSU like Kennesaw State?
holyphil
Kent State had a commencement today, so my bet would be Kent State.
UpvoteFairy3001
@op which is it? (I personally think it's Kansas State University)
Smackaroonial
My mom wasn't terrible, but she doesn't stick up for me when my bitch sisters complain about me and my wife not having kids. They all have
thirdworldrepresent
Your wife is your primary family now. You don't have to heed your sisters' self-righteous opinions.
DoublevBomb
Angry at you...for *not* having kids...? I don't...I mean...I failed this class so many times:
BeautyChaos
Sorry about your stupid sisters!
SaturdayMidmorning
You need to calmly tell them how often you rawdog it, and ask how much sperm they suggest you leave inside of your wife.
quad0321
Why is it up to your mom to say something?...you're a grown ass person.
Smackaroonial
I didn't expect this comment to blow up. Haha, it's a tricky situation that would take more than a small comment thread to explain.
quad0321
Lol well that makes me feel slightly better :)
quad0321
Hahaha also reading your other reply to someone I see you're a fellow Utard
Smackaroonial
Sorry about your horrible mom op.
doomsdayaddams
I'm so sorry. My kids are my life; anyone else's decision about having them, including my kids', is none of my business I will stand 1/2
doomsdayaddams
Up for you both, if you want. I'm a grandma now, and I take no shit from anyone.
Kiore
Like how does that even impact them? o.O
DoublevBomb
That would be my question too. But then, I never did pass this class:
InRetrospectIShouldveLearnedToSwimBeforeBecomingaSailor
Jealousy and regret probably. Jealousy of all the free time, money & better future if they do have kids, regret at not waiting to have kids.
thewhifflingtit
Well, you see. Many people feel that the way they live their lives is the only right way to do it, and any deviation is wrong.
InRetrospectIShouldveLearnedToSwimBeforeBecomingaSailor
This too. People are entitled to their opinions but trying to force other people to live by their view and ethics is wrong.
aleister94
my mom convinced me I was mentally retarded until I was about 20
beetfarms
I wasn't convinced, but my mom tried that too when I was young.
Smackaroonial
Dang that's messed up.
aleister94
yeah its somewhat strained our relationship
thewhifflingtit
My mom tried to convince me my crippling anxiety and depression were imagined and wouldn't let me seek treatment for them when I was a teen.
thewhifflingtit
Lol, fuck her. In therapy and on meds and I finally feel like I'm living life, no thanks to my mom. Cheers to teachers who care.
0xFFF1
MGTOW for life. They hating because we can do basic cost/benefit analysis.
JanetVanDyne
Funny, I just saw someone talk about those guys yesterday.
Promethianfire
MGTOWs and radical feminists are interchangeable
Varosayth
Not really, champo
HeckTheHeckOff
How so?
Promethianfire
If you remove any gender pronouns from the crap MGTOWS and radfems say, it's often impossible to tell which group the person belongs to.
BeautyChaos
Oh yeah my loan debt isn't too bad and I have a full time job lined up and I start in two weeks!
Tintinjokes
Congratzzzz
Cadaverific
Hey man, u can pick ur friends, and u can pick ur nose But u can't pick ur friends nose. No what I mean?
CyanideSynn1221
Gratz on your job and your graduation @op!
TanDumpLord
Goooood stuff
Smackaroonial
Congratulations! That's awesome!
BeautyChaos
Thanks! :)
TiannaTV
That's awesome! What was your focus in fine arts? In one year I hope to be where you are in life. I can hardly wait.
BeautyChaos
I'm a Graphic Designer. My BFA is through a college of Communication.
Smackaroonial
kids and are living semi terrible lives and are in mountains of debt. I will still have students loans, but they are waaaaay smaller.
UpvoteTotem
The oddest part of coming from parents means you were raised to respect having offspring as an enterprise. Outside that, people still whole
thewhifflingtit
What?
UpvoteTotem
Sorry, typing cut out where I was going.
UpvoteTotem
I lost the end of what I was typing... Just that we are raised (usually) by families to respect creating your own family after them
Azerai
Jesus ... what did they buy?
TheOriginalBenson
Children. Too many children.
EiNyx
Sheesh, they should have waited until they were on sale.
orangecicle
One reason I will neeeeeever have kids.
AngryFoodTerror
Adding this to my longass list.
Azerai
............ how much per kid and where do you buy them? For a friend.
tzxAzrael
they aren't as tasty as certain sources claim. i mean um, that's what i hear, anyway.
Danielv1234
We estimate roughly 2 million dollars per kid, paid over 18 - 20 years.
Smackaroonial
Exactly, 5 kids for one, another has 6 kids. My parents are religious, so they expect us all to procreate like rabbits.
thewhifflingtit
Disgusting.
SociallyAwkwardCanadianMoose
Which is funny because God said to us be good stewards and responsible. ...
everyusernamealreadytaken
That's what I'm scared of the most with my future family. I'm not burying myself in debt and poverty just to 1/2