KimboDiddleyDoo
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My kid brother, Jonathan, died September 15th of last year after rolling his vehicle and spending 6 days in a coma with brain trauma. He never woke up from the moment he wrecked so closure has been difficult. I’ve had to tell countless people our story of sitting outside ICU, waiting for him to die because we knew nothing else would happen but that. I’d not been able to get through it without crying until now.
He was 20 years old and had been married just 2 months before the accident. He was a hugger and a constant talker through movies. He was an organ donor and saved 5 people with his death.
Baby tax. This is me, holding my baby brother when he was born. I miss him so so much. And I think about him everyday. It’s still hard but the pain is getting muted and the memories, louder. I’m grateful for that.
Edit: Thanks for all the condolences. It’s sort of weird hearing it a year later but when people say it to my face now I’m able to look them in the eye and say I’m ok. More than I can say for our mom but she is coping. I didn’t know I’d find so many with sibling grief here. Thank you for all your support.
MyNameIsLucilleAndIKnowHowUFeel
My brother killed himself 5 years ago, we were only 11 months apart in age. Keep the good memories of him alive
SomeDetroitGuy
I'm sorry for your loss.
DebLil18
So sorry for your loss, OP
PineconesAndGravy
So sorry for you loss, @op
capricaria
My little brother died 3 months ago of cardiac arrest. This gives me some hope.
KimboDiddleyDoo
Oh that’s so recent. I’m so sorry. Please feel free to talk if you need to.
Dancarpatpaimelton
I lost my baby sister 10 years ago it still hurts, but it's not as sharp. You will get better
Revergo
You rock. Today marks 15 years since my kid bro died; I'm crying now. Love yourself man, you rock.
KimboDiddleyDoo
<3
SmoothButtercream
My baby brother died in a car accident at 23 and like you we had no closure. Please give yourself time to grieve in whatever way you need.
KimboDiddleyDoo
It’s awful because it’s so sudden and you feel like they had so much to live for. I helped raise my brother. I’m sorry you lost yours too.
Eventz
I feel you man.. My little brother died to brain cancer last month after a year of "fighting". 16 years old..
iguessihaveto
Make sure for every time you tell that story, you tell a nice one from his life. Don't let that hospital room keep sucking you back in.
chewbaccamegatron
That is really great advice +1
usersubbordercontrol
Lost my sister from rolling her car. Instantly gone. Never even said goodbye. 20 years old, older sister
wetred
In the past few months I have seen someone lost in a coma,1 wake up from a coma and 1 receive a life saving transplant. Life is really heavy
dbr615
I lost my brother six years ago and still can't talk about him without crying. You have my deepest sympathy
VelvetWarhol
CraftedLine
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm here if you ever want to talk. Lost my second brother 4yrs ago, first one 25yrs ago. Mom and dad in between.
SeregRauko
My older sister got run over by a car when she was 13. Her death shaped my life in many, many unforeseen ways. (1/2)
SeregRauko
I learned to look at the good things that her death caused. Was difficult at first, but I would say I'm as close to healed now as I will be.
undercookedPancake
Lost my older brother when I was 13, he was 19. The pain for me eventually went completely away, unless I think about him. The parents....
MisterHipster052
One of the things I've learned about trauma is that if you engage it directly, to a manageable degree, you can overcome it with time.
LannistersSendTheirRetards
My sister died 9 years ago in a car accident and I still cry talking about her.
KimboDiddleyDoo
I still cry. I have since I managed not to that day. It will always hurt of course.
dbhaynes199611
Firefighters don't die. They live on through the hearts of those they've helped.
beebfever
I lost my mother in February when she survived a heart attack and was in the hospital recovering. I went and visited her every day she was
beebfever
In the hospital. One day I was a few hours from home when I got a call that she wasn't going to make it so I rushed to the hospital and she
beebfever
Was so out of it that I didnt get the closure I wanted. I could talk to her but she could only give me "mhms" (yes) and "uh uhs"(no)
beebfever
She was so drugged up so that she would go comfortably because her body was shuttung down and I stayed by her side holding her hand til the
beebfever
Very end. She meant the world to me and I still cry all the time. A few months later I losr my grandma as well but that wasn't as sad
beebfever
Because she lived a full life and was ready to go. But the main thing I hope you take from this is that our loved ones would want us to be
RagingSlab
Organ donation is a noble act. Being a volunteer fireman is just as noble and selfless. Condolences and God bless, OP.
enygma981
I am sorry for your loss but he does live on in the 5 people he saved. Try to take solace in that.
NazzyDragon
Exactly. That's a reason to be god damned proud, but mourning is still okay.
enygma981
Mourning is the cross that survivors must bear, I wish you the strength to bear that cross.
Rigajigjig
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my brother to a hit and run 7 years ago. The man that hit him was a cop, didn't do any time. It gets 1/2
Rigajigjig
A little easier for me to deal with each year but sometimes it's still a dagger in my heart, his birthday is this month so that's rough.
pantzequalpooped
How did this dude not serve any time?
Rigajigjig
Apparently New York State troopers are above the law.
pantzequalpooped
Duly noted. Just moved to NYC.
Rigajigjig
Good luck and godspeed
ImahumanIpromise
10 years ago one of my older brothers was in a similar accident, severed spinal cord and brain dead. 3 days in ICU then unplugged.
KimboDiddleyDoo
I’m so sorry.
ImahumanIpromise
You don't need to be, but thanks. Just letting you know there are people here that understand, if you need to talk.
DontEverMoveHere
The thoughts never stop coming but the pain becomes manageable and the good thoughts soon outweigh the bad.
CraftedLine
Lost a brother 25yrs ago and 4yrs ago. It gets easier, but you forget things like a laugh or I love you. Just keep living daily!
fuzzywinklestein
Mostly
YuJinX5
Death leaves a hole in your heart, nothing can fill that hole, but time and new happiness erodes the sides leaving over time only a small
YuJinX5
Pox mark of the former tragedy. Much like what remains of WW1 battlefields
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Derragur
The feelings come in waves and they keep crashing on you but as the time passes the waves become farther apart and shorter in length
Derragur
But they will never stop coming, sometimes you'll feel suffocated and thats ok nothing is gonna take the pain away but the waves will soon
Derragur
Turn to good memories you had of that person and one day when u remember them u will smile
missmaryMACKMACKMACK
Needed this thank you
SupraLove
I heard a nice quote once, it went something like “death leaves a pain nobody can heal, but the love leaves a memory nobody can steal.”
Upinthecold
Very nice
Mouseatthebottomofthecup
Wow, really nice
parazapatos
Thank you
St0ckh01m5yndr0m3
I'm truly sorry for your loss, mate.
notashill
Why doesn't this shit happen to assholes
raidleadergutts
It does, the assholes just don't get remembered.
yzmotoxer807
Don’t fret, it happens to them too. You just don’t hear about it as much because they’re assholes and have no friends.
whosthatgirlitsvern
Next time you might cry. Don’t sweat it. Let yourself feel the sadness and keep moving forward. Be good, my dudette.
KimboDiddleyDoo
That’s true. Never know when something will trigger a memory for me. I’m doing ok for now though.
LadyTashviv
Another important thing to remember is to not feel guilty if you go an entire day happy and not thinking about it.that was a struggle for me
KimboDiddleyDoo
I did for a long time too.
pantzequalpooped
I'm sorry OP. My kid brother rolled his jeep twice at 70 mph a few years back; I've taken it for granted that he's still alive, and (1/?)
pantzequalpooped
never really let the real potential of his getting killed in those crashes affect me. I've just taken it for granted that he would (2/?)
pantzequalpooped
always be there with me. Your post helped me realize how grateful I should be that he survived without any traumatic injury. (3/?)
pantzequalpooped
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you are able to continue moving on, and that it hurts less as time goes by.
KimboDiddleyDoo
<3
NegmieStar
I just lost my sister on Friday. It’s fucking hard. Keep going OP.
1DameMaggieSmith
Take care of yourself, I’m so sorry for your loss.
KimboDiddleyDoo
Fresh pain. I’m so sorry. Reach out if you need to.