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I needed to stop lying to myself about these things so here you go. This is my way of admitting to myself that this is real.
I have always struggled with self-harming and self-destructive compulsions. Maybe I should actually try and fix them but I am scared of losing my coping mechanisms.
Any advice, supportive thoughts, or dank memes welcomed.
stickywhiskers
You deserve food, and you deserve to get help, u can learn better coping mechanisms like I did! Bulimia doesn't want you to win but u can
ItsAGameOfSchlongs
My sister bit her nails so my mom dipped them in vinegar. Dont know where im going with this, but come by and beat her up to unwind.
cookieduster
Take it easy on yourself. Good luck.
JustinWasHere
I say this with love: go to therapy.
atrielienz
Relapses are common. Try again. Don't let failure be the end of your story. All you can do is your best. Don't cave to expectations.
JHawkInc
Congrats on proper use of the Confession Bear. I hope you read the comments and find reason to post a Success Kid in the near future.
theawake
Coping mechanisms aren't working if you're relapsing. Get help. It'll be hard, but it'll get way better.
LastoftheLillyCreatures
psych here: go to therapy. I knew many people with your coping mechanisms and they all turned out fine with some time of learning :)
NottSure0
1 I had a bad addiction for years all I did was slowly replace the harmful habits with healthy ones.
NottSure0
2 It wasn't easy for me but eventually became normal. We all find ways to cope some good some bad. I really hope this helps. Good luck.
azrailthedeathangel
What i learned getting clean off drugs, never be afraid to go to therapy or ask for help, people chose that job so you could go, be strong
Messina
They won't judge you, they won't think less of you, they can help. Good luck!
Twrecks123
You can do it
Syllygrrrl
Agreed. We all need help sometimes. If you have access to help use it. Then go be the best you possible. I know you can do it.
RickO3611
The deal is, you've proven you can cope with lesser tools. So imagine what you can do with better tools.
rugtiestheroomtogether
Baby steps, first reach out and make the appointment. You’re self aware which is huge!! You got this friend, we’re rooting for you.
trikucian
@op I've had problems with bulimia myself, and my best advice is to fill your fridge with veggies and eat those when bored, and drink water
NoRainNoRainbows
Fall down 1000 times get up 1001
AninOnin
This. Persistence is the name of the game. Everyone slides back sometimes. What's important isn't the finish line, it's the next step.
BiggestofBears
Go to therapy. Watch more veggietales
ebuell7
I so resonate with this. I have struggled with an eating disorder for 10 years. Therapy has helped me a lot. I hope you are able to find som
ebuell7
Relief soon. It's gonna take a while and it's not going to be easy but it's so worth it. You're gonna crush it
Kevinbfree
Change and fear of the unknown are frightening. Please trust this recovering addict...give yourself a chance, you're worth it.
gotchasucka
Do therapy, it will help.
rob0tgot
Therapy helps you gain more healthy coping mechanisms so that it's easier to leave the bad ones. Then they tackle the root of the problem.
thesameasyours
There are people on here who care and willing to talk to you. We can try and walk you through tough times
freddyfredd
People go to personal trainers for physical health advice, it’s the same for mental advice. I have been doing it and I feel better.
freddyfredd
Also, finding true self worth is worth it. Because you can’t escape yourself. I believe in you. It’s ok to be where you are; it’s not ok to
freddyfredd
It’s not ok to stay where you are.
gregariouslouganis
Therapy isn't scary. Maybe try an online service. Some offer text or talk so you could start slowly with someone. You deserve to be happy.
Backuptrisha
I've been struggling with bulimia too. If you want to talk, pm me! I'm seeing a psychiatrist soon and I'm not sure if I should tell her..
asmasm
That's step 1. Good job.
Importaku
BaconBoy7
The best advice a random fuck on the internet can give is don't listen to a random fuck on the internet. Everyone here is stupid, especially
BaconBoy7
Me. The best person you can go to is a therapist. I understand how fucking terrifying it can be, but there's no shame in needing help
BaconBoy7
Hell.. this post is you asking for help, and there is no shame. But us internet morons are probably not the best resource
colopctech
American Vet or family member of a Vet 1-800-273-8255 press 1 - its a talk line, when you don't have the energy for therapy, and need a chat
thepirateswhodontdoanything
Grandparent close enough or immediate family only
Klaxun
https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/ friends or family of a vet. I'm sure you are okay to call.
colopctech
Thank you Klaxun for answering.
AStrongFemaleCharacter
Therapist here: it’s okay to talk to the therapist about why you are reluctant to engage in therapy. You may need to talk about some stuff
AStrongFemaleCharacter
before you even get to the bulimia stuff. It’s okay. A good therapist won’t risk you before you’re ready. But they could help move you
AStrongFemaleCharacter
closer to being ready.
AStrongFemaleCharacter
That should have been “rush” you not “risk” you.
fbutt09
Solid advice right there
SerenePrincess013
Quick question: I recently had to break up w/ my therapist bc I can't afford her anymore. After going thru literally dozens in my life,&>>
SerenePrincess013
Never really getting anywhere w/o having to switch again, & start fresh, do you have any suggestions on how I can approach >>
SerenePrincess013
Finding someone to talk to, w/o letting the whole "welp, this is going to end in 6 mths, so don't bother getting too deep" sabotage it?
Whopkins
Hi. I am also a therapist and doctor of psychology. I field this question a lot. PM me if you'd like to discuss. 140 characters quite short
rouxmorgue13
you will just lose the bad coping mechanisms and learn some good coping mechanisms with some help. YOU CAN DO IT!
butthurtnevergetsbetter
Exactly this. It's not stealing your crutches, it's giving you better ones which don't hurt you.
thepirateswhodontdoanything
Thanks. I need to look at it this way but it feels the other way
GML42
The old options will still be there but you may not want to use them after you learn new options. Good luck!
nagesagi
You got comfortable with your coping mechanisms, good and bad. You'll keep some , reenforce others, and drop some. The change is scary ...
nagesagi
and you don't know yet how you'll do, but you've already fallen off, so that's a done deal. This is just reassessing what's good and bad
aloharamada
I'm sure it does, but you programed yourself to feel this way, with some help you can reprogram yourself again. Please believe in yourself.
scree06
It is scary, but you've done this much already. It hasn't killed you. mental illness likes to make us believe we will die if we do something
scree06
You've already proven that's not true. It will be uncomfortable yes, but it will also be a relief when it's finally over with.
scree06
I didn't have an eating disorder, but i had some really bad anxiety. Please do this for yourself. <3