He’s not my Dad

Feb 22, 2021 5:28 PM

Thranduill

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I have never really known my father. He didn’t want to stick around back then. I have seen pictures, and my mother have told me he was a german priest. My mother is Norwegian. I have always believed that I was part Norwegian, part German. My half sister bought me a DNA kit for christmas. Her test results were very accurate. Mine showed that I was 61% Russian/Ukrainian. The rest was Scandinavian. My mother had me when she was very young, it was the 80’s, and she partied very hard. I talked to my aunt about it. She told me that my mother lived with a man who was from the Ukrain when i was conceived, and that she had always wondered if he was the father. All my life people have told me I did not look very scandinavian, and my personality did not match it very well either. I am happy that I finally know where I am from. I am not angry at my mother, but affraid she might get upset. I don’t think she lied to me. I think in her mind she knew who the father was. Btw, if there are any Russian or Ukrainian people out there searching for a new friend, I would love to talk to you, and maybe learn a little about your culture. #dna #confession_bear

Edit: To all of you who are wondering if this could hurt my “Dad”. I don’t know him. I have never met him. I tried contacting him when i was 14 years old. He told me I was the biggest mistake of his life, that he didn’t want any contact what so ever. I don’t have a phone number or e-mail adress on him, and I have tried looking him up online. So I doubt he will ever know about this or be hurt.

Family don’t end with blood

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

She probably already knows ya?

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Your dad is the person who raised you. He may not be your gene donor, but the bond built over time means more.

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

That's some news to process. My mom found out her dad wasn't her bio dad through 23andme last year, 10 years after he died.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Привет, друг )) First thing to learn - we use “)” instead of smileys

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Mama knows it's hers daddy hopes it's his

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

What's important is what's in your heart.

5 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

I bet she already knows. What she does not know, is that you now know.

5 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Someone is owed birthday and Christmas presents

5 years ago | Likes 176 Dislikes 2

A father isn't always someone who is the combination of DNA. It's who raised you.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I know of 5+ people that know shit is sideways in their family due to these tests. Really amazing.

5 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Hey, I'm from Ukraine ?? Would be happy to learn more about your culture and share our's. You can find me on twitter as NerveClasp

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

If you are a women- i would guess that you are extrem hot. Ukrainian and scandinavian is a nice combo xD

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Thank you :D

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

>and my personality did not match it very well either.< yeah, that's not in your DNA

5 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

Greetings, comrade.

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Turn this shit into a TV script I’d watch it. Do you kill someone in the end ?

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Through ancestry.com I found out last summer I have a half brother in Sweden. My dad has 2 new grandchildren & 4 great grandchildren.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

5 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 7

I know you're not specifically saying it is, but that's not the "original" saying like is sometimes claimed. Valid if you want it to be tho.

5 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That explains why you don’t get drunk on vodka

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

How did you know? .. but true

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

My wife’s parents were Ukrainian. She can pound down the vodka but gets headaches with any bourbon or other whiskeys

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Sounds like maybe German dad didn’t stick around because he knew he wasn’t dad?

5 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Or maybe he wasn't as German as he thought. It's possible, though the Ukranian guy is more likely.

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Or because he was a priest

5 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Wow maybe she wants to know just as much as you do. Tell her and update us if you want to.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

We all just cool with the German priest being the potential father?

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

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5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Eh the blood of fellowship is thicker than the waters of the womb if you consider him your dad than it doesn't matter if you're related

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Lol mom likely knows. Your DAD on the other hand doesn't need too. If it would wreck him & benefit nobody, really debate it but leave it be.

5 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

Honestly, I would want to know if I was the dad. Kid would still be my kid, as family is made not born. And the truth is irreplaceable.

5 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

This. Fairly enough, I didnt read the details until after I commented. But my comment was exactly as you put. I wouldn't want to know.

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I don’t think dad cares since they state in the post they don’t even really know the guy lol

5 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Maybe that's why he left in the first place, to not stay with a cheater and raise some other guy's kid.

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Very fair. My comment was made b4 I read details as smrt ppl do. But was made pretensed that I wouldn't want to know as the dad myself.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

These tests are known to be inaccurate. If you sent them to 3 different labs, you'd get 3 different results. Don't upset your Mom over it.

5 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 5

I'm adopted. It doesn't matter where I came from. My adoptive parents loved and raised me and so did my brothers. They are my family.

5 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 3

Your adoptive family is your “real” family but you or your children can be curious about your biological ancestors. DNA genealogy can help

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The tests are ~100% accurate at identifying individuals that are biologically related up to 3rd cousins but ethnicity isn't a real thing.

5 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Thank you.gif

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5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Mom already knows.

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Mom already knows that commercial DNA "heritage" tests are less accurate for determining paternity than newspaper horoscopes? I'd hope so!

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 10

And so does the sister

5 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Or at least suspects. Could be 2 possible candidates (or more)

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Straight up. You're not responsible for her feelings, and I don't say that harshly. It's just a fact.

5 years ago | Likes 72 Dislikes 3

Mom already hoes

5 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 5

Came for this!

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Mom did too probably

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

She was there, probably.

5 years ago | Likes 153 Dislikes 0

probably swallowed your brother

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

At least hopefully.

5 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 0

In theory...and in practice

5 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

In theory there is no difference between theory and practice, but in practice there is

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

But wasn’t there a doctor that used his own sperm without permission? GASP what if it’s one of THOSE situations!

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

That bitch lied.

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Or the “bitch” was sleeping with multiple dudes at once and got it wrong. Sheesh, way to jump to the worst conclusion.

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How is that worse than your judgment?

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 10

What judgement?

5 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

But does she know her son knows?

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?1

5 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

I am a woman ;)

5 years ago | Likes 160 Dislikes 0

Well hi there

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

v

5 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

On the internet, the men are men, the women are men, and the children are FBI agents.

5 years ago | Likes 74 Dislikes 1

FBI agents who are also men?

5 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 0

Plot twist

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

But does mom know that?

5 years ago | Likes 246 Dislikes 0

You win

5 years ago | Likes 40 Dislikes 0

Don't make any choices based on a commerical test as they are notoriously inaccurate and opinion based. Also genetics aren't culture.

5 years ago | Likes 130 Dislikes 18

They are nonsense, what is German dna what is English dna? Where did they find this pure strand of specific dna to test against?

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

There’s not a huge difference between Nordic & Slavic genealogy. Ever heard of the Kievan Rus? Vikings that settled in what is now Kiev.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

And some demographics are underrepresented for various reasons (leading to the inaccuracies)

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

“Genetics is not culture”. THIS! You are who you are with your values, your friends, and your family, not your DNA.

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I once saw a meme here where some hospital asked for organ or blood donorship for a person poc. They added that it would be best if the ...

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

..potential donor would be of the same race. A huge uproar followed (to which I first instantly agreed) bc race doesn't matter/exist. Then..

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

..a medical/doctor guy explained utterly convincing, friendly and transparent why we all were wrong and for cases like that race DOES exist.

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

...since then I think I definitely need to do some research on that, it seemed to be right. Pity I didn't save it. Maybe s.o. remembers?

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

While I mostly agree, having a connection to your roots and origin can be very powerful

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

If the aunt has evidence that such genetics are plausible, I don't see the reason to doubt the test. I took one and considered a (1)

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

possible discrepancy when it said I was over a third Turkish. It wasn't that the test was wrong, it was that you have to consider what (2)

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

that can mean. My father is Greek and his father lived in the Ottoman Empire in a Greek enclave before the population exchange between (3)

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those two countries. So now while it might say I'm Turkish, it is only because in Turkey you have Greek peoples historically

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

As mentioned in my other comment, here's a selection of my ethnic breakdown from 3 different revisions.

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Please note that my English and German levels have varied wildly. And sometimes I get really random stuff. And the Eastern Euro is 1/

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

likely from my "German" ancestors who in some cases came from what is now Poland but wasn't when they came over.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Exactly. Ethnicity like race isn’t a real scientific thing so it’s impossible to be very accurate. They are just patterns that can be seen.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Too often people think that because ethnicity estimates are bunk then the whole genetic test is but they are 98% accurate up to 3rd cousins

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Yep! It is really unfortunate. What you end up with is people who either believe it's all 100% accurate including the ethnicity stuff or 1/

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

as you say, think it's all astrological-grade malarkey. The ethnicity stuff *can* be helpful in shaping understanding of ancestry, but 2/

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

needs to be taken with a grain of salt. The actual genetic relative matching is very, very useful, speaking as an adoptee. Triangulation 3/

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

and Leeds sorting can really come up with the goods.

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5 years ago | Likes 601 Dislikes 1

Too soon

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I go daddy issues, that sence makes me cry alot

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Movie Yondu kidnapped hundreds (if not thousands) of children and delivered them to someone that murdered them.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Still probably the only MCU movie that was able to elicit actual emotion from me...

5 years ago | Likes 92 Dislikes 3

Tony’s funeral send off? Geez. Heart of stone.

5 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

I think MCU did this alot for me, but the fucking cherry...was that Stan Lee opening in End Game.

5 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Ik that's totally fair. They had some emotion generating, but the Stan Lee moment nearly got a tear too

5 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Really. When Thor comes down with his hammer on that bridge, and Led Zepplin is playing...tears! It's so beautiful!

5 years ago | Likes 46 Dislikes 0

AWWW UHH UHHHHH AWWHH

5 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Mine came when he was still worthy in Endgame.

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'ma keep saying this 'til the day I die, 'cause I absolutely believe it. They should have done something less rock, more metal.

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

The song literally has the lyrics "Hammer of the Gods". That's Thor's anthem. Like Black Sabbath to Tony Stark.

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

It was an acquired anthem, it's not like the song was made for Thor any more than Sabbath's song was made for Tony. My point is that I would

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That scene pumped me up massively, fair to say emotion was pulled forth. But not sad emotion & I wasn't clear lol

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I always felt they missed out by not doing that when Thor showed up to save the day at the end of Infinity War. I get why, but still.

5 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Did ya see the fan edit I loved it

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Oooo link plz?

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

What is a scandinavian personality? Huh.

5 years ago | Likes 104 Dislikes 1

The two Scandanavian friends I have are some morbidly sassy lads and I love that about them.

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That was my question too. It’s more about being raised with certain traditions and customs rather than a personality...

5 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Lol I was hoping someone would mention that

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Innate social distancing? Love of lutefisk?

5 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

We re known for being rude, cold and fistanced

5 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Fistanced? Oh shot, that's definately some weird European porn isnt it

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It is fisting from as far away as possible. *Distanced

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On average, enjoys saunas more than non-Scandinavians

5 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 0

That's a Finnish thing

5 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Scandinavians can be Finnish

5 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The handful of Norwegians Danes and Swedes I know exclude Finland ? like it's right there but I dunno

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I thought tiny Denmark would be excluded

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It’s somewhere between ABBA and Darkthrone.

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That is such a small window for personalities

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Right around Nightwish

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Not to be confused with Abbath and Darkthrone.

5 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Right? When writing my comment I realized that Abbath is *awfully* close to ABBA. Given his silly streak it made me wonder if it’s intended.

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Not to be confused with Abbath and Costello

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Norway shares a border with Russia. There has been exchange across the border for hundreds of years. Yet still the culture is different. 1/

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

DNA don't matter. Culture does. i have friends whos grandparents came to Norway from pakistan. He is behaving and behaving just like me 2/

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

whose ancestors most likely is just Norwegians. 3/3

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That was pretty much my point :)

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I don't know if OP is very young, but DNA won't code for what country you act like any more than it codes for what language you speak

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Tell that to all the ‘Scottish’ Americans. But when you have no long term roots, it might feel comforting I guess?

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The idea that it does is old and strong, though, and many people seem to really, truly *want* it to be true...

5 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Dude was born in the 80s, says right there in the post

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They did research with separated twins. Personality to a large extent does depend on genetics.

5 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 2

Ya, identical twins separated at birth. Siblings share no more personality traits than strangers. And nationality certainly isn't genetic.

5 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Young siblings might be different, but they eventually come around with age. People resemble their parents as they get older.

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Personality, not physical resemblance

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