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I am really trying to be brave. Not making this on a throwaway account is part of that I guess. My otherwise fun night ended up really shitty and me feeling awful about myself.
I haven't cried about my experience yet, so I have that going for me, which is nice.
For context, my handicap essentially made my legs smaller and that's why I am short. Doesn't really affect my "quality of life."
Pre-bed edit: Thanks for all the kind words and messages! It feels really good to have people reach out and give encouragement. Y'all are amazing.
ShepardsCDR
Meeting people is difficult, difficult, Lemon difficult. Even as a straight man. Don't let it drag you down.
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murderhobbit
I -- don't know what that is
GrizzlyBeer26
My messaging isn't working, but I'm here if you need someone to talk to
murderhobbit
Thanks man, i really appreciate it
krapmyself
Dude, dating is hard in the hetero scene, and our numbers are vastly higher than gays. It just takes time so keep trying, you'll get a hit.
murderhobbit
Thanks man
VitaminJay
@op:
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murderhobbit
<3
murderhobbit
fucking thing posted in the wrong order goddamnit
Gilgamech
That's Imgur.
OpinionsAreLikeAssholes
murderhobbit
*insert the creepy thing following the kid in the hall meme*
Cholf
Short tops are hot, just saying.
murderhobbit
The guys I've topped agree haha. Dating apps are good for /some/ things
trekkiedane
So are short bottoms!
Rushluk
Don't worry, it's not you or because you're gay. It's an every guy thing
murderhobbit
Haha good to know
AskBobLoblaw
I went through tons of duds too. Part of the joirney.
murderhobbit
Eh the journey sucks. Can I get a fast-pass?
cookieduster
Literally, like weight wise?
bfiGamer
Stay strong brother.
murderhobbit
tryin to
TheMightyMoto
You got this OP you can do it
murderhobbit
*insert Waterboy "You can do it!" gif here*
murderhobbit
But really, thanks
MamaSchatzy
You felt good about yourself and went out... hold on to that. It's THE most difficult part. Proud of you!
murderhobbit
Thanks random Mama lady. I really do appreciate it
wetuttle2
This sounds exactly like a straight guy going to a club after being single for a while!
murderhobbit
I suppose so. Though I'd say you probably don't have to pretend to not be straight all the time. It's draining, man
TroelsyTwo
You think you're fooling anyone?
murderhobbit
Haha i dont know. I think so. Im not effeminate at all
Cru42
No matter how hard that night was... it cannot be harder than it has been to live the lie that you have. You've got this. Just be you.
murderhobbit
Thanks buddy. Trying to be
TheDisembodiedFloatingHeadOfEdwardGRobinson
When you strike out it just means the right guy wasn't there that night. Keep looking, you got this.
murderhobbit
Thanks for the encouragement
Xecryo
Oh see there's your problem. Clubs are fucking trash. If I wanted to be tortured with too many people and loud cacophonous noise I'd go>
Xecryo
Gilgamech
Back when I was young, I used to goto clubs. The last one I went to - I stopped going,a month later they were shut down for sex trafficking.
Gilgamech
IRL dating is hard. I wish I had advice for you.
murderhobbit
Hmm, my other comment may have come off as snide. I was sincere haha
Gilgamech
No u :p
murderhobbit
Well, thanks for your comment and well wishes!
theprincethatshallcome
A lot of the gay guys I know, go to clubs in groups. Not really looking to hookup or connect. Dating is a numbers game, persistence pays off
murderhobbit
I did see that, and I understand it. I don't really have a group to go out with. Or even a single gay friend, really
theprincethatshallcome
My point was, don't take it personally. It takes time, trial & error. Guys may just be there to dance & drink, reducing your chances.
murderhobbit
Trying not to haha. I know if I keep showing up to things, I won't be the new guy for long.
LordChapstick
Definitely don't base your whole experience off of a club, as a fellow gay man, that's one of worst places to come out to.
murderhobbit
I am trying not to. I guess I just don't know where else to go, really.
JoeSchmew
Magic the Gathering tournament.
murderhobbit
Hahaha god no
JoeSchmew
#choosingbeggars
trekkiedane
Around here the local 'Lambda-organisation' have regular social gatherings for 'beginners'. -You might have something similar where you live
murderhobbit
Lambda organization? What's that?
trekkiedane
LGBT-organisation; https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_symbols#Lambda
murderhobbit
Thank you
LordChapstick
Ahh gotcha. I'm in a similar situation, with no where to go locally gay-wise, and honestly have met some awesome people through dating apps.
murderhobbit
What apps do you use?
murderhobbit
Have you? My experience has been less that stellar on the more than one night stand thing
LordChapstick
I may have worded that a bit off, I've met maybe like... 3-4 awesome people over the 10+ years of trying. They're there, just not common.
murderhobbit
Ah, noted haha
MSGinSC
1 I don't know man, maybe they didn't want to be murdered by a hobbit. But seriously though, hang in there, try to enjoy life, and keep 1
MSGinSC
2 being you. Your family loves you, and if they don't they don't deserve you.
murderhobbit
Thank you. (and how do you know I don't murder only hobbits? hmm)
MSGinSC
Well, I hope the others are Elves. Smug bastards the Elves, they need to be knocked down a peg or two.
murderhobbit
Fuckers walk on snow all high-and-mighty and shit, while the rest are knee to chest deep in it!
MSGinSC
Ain't nobody need to be that tall, what's wrong with you pointy ear giraffe fuckers.
Clockworkdancerobot
You being kind of new to things may not have been what some people were looking for. You will get better and more relaxed. Takes time.
murderhobbit
Yeah being the stranger in the room is tough. I get that I am the new guy. Just -- uhhhggg it sucks
Clockworkdancerobot
Keep at it. You may start to think it's something physical, don't go down that path. Bad things lie down that path, gay/bi/straight.
murderhobbit
I know. I learned to take my head off of that idea a long time ago. Creeps up, but I know how to deal. I'll keep pushing though
Clockworkdancerobot
Was worried when you lead with that. That is good to hear. If you're in college, you might check any campus LGBT+ orgs. Or local orgs.
murderhobbit
Yeah I'll be ok. I'm not in college. I'm unsure where to find those orgs? The ones that the bar had are all sex and kink. Which is great, 1/
Clockworkdancerobot
... in an old town I lived in, there was a few stores that had pro-LGBT stuff, might be some good social meetup groups adverted there.
murderhobbit
Hmm, I'll try to look into it