rkingesd365
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It was rather absolute and final, the reason provided wouldn't make sense out of context even if I understood the reason enough to explain it. It wasn't a long distance relationship either, we're in the same neighborhood. I dunno, I'm sure there's some lesson to learn here so whatever.
BlastyMcBlastblast
7 years is a long time to be engaged without moving forward, it may feel rough now but its probably for the best that things are over :)
Antininny
they sound like a fucking coward... good riddance
innoxiosmors
Walk away and focus on the red part at the top, dude. Keep up the self-improvement!
TheMurderousCricket
The lesson is, maintain positive changes in your mental and physical health.
This way you'll be able to watch your enemies and cheats die off while you just enjoy your health, a glass of martini and take an occasional selfie over their graves.
archaniss
Fook me mate! That is a scheit one!
However, you can focus on your personal goals and growth!
I’ve been where you are, and clawed my way through!
May the gods smile apon you
ePluribus
Sounds like she wanted you broken, and that's not a healthy relationship to be in. If the price of your well-being is finding someone who loves you, not your mental illness, then so be it. Hang in there, I guess.
gilliamv
"here for you" Accolade.
Long term relationship with little positive momentum can get frustrating. "Exes are exes for a reason". Treat it as a life lesson experience and shape your expectations for the next relationship.
bobgunrunnersmith
That is cowardly. If a person isn't enough of an adult to face you, they definitely don't deserve you.
Twinklepot
That's a very cowardly way to break up with someone. Look after yourself OP. You can get through this. https://media3.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1YXFtY3g3NGo0cnBsd255NGdvOHM4Z3ZrMDV3dDM5cTdlZDUxb29uaSZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/2GDHOfqcmYIX6/200w.webp
malakim
Yeah, sucks, but if you were engaged for 6 years and did not even live together, you were not engaged, tbh.
omgzwtfs
Honestly seems like you both have things to fix and are better off separate. Being engaged that long is wild, 7 years in and not even living together is something else unless you're both ~20
Newdonster
You are better off, though it might not feel that way now.
Autittuderp
When we have a partner not willing to do the work...us doing it, is triggering af. Continue growing, you will find someone who wants to as well.
fractalsphere
Engaged for 7 years and didn't get married? Why? How long has you been together before the engagement?
thrashingcows
Looks like they said together 7 years, engaged 6.
malakim
Point still stands, especially since they did not even live together
sometimesarobot
engaged for seven years or together for seven years and engaged some part of that time? (just curious because seven years sounds like a long time to be engaged, though I have no reference)
rkingesd365
Oh, 6 years engaged but 7 total years relationship. Sorry. Either way, it wasn't supposed to have been that long of an engagement but something kept coming up from either my side or hers.
DanielAsparagus
Something kept coming up sounds like “there were addiction and mental health issues and codependency issues.” Many relationships end when someone gets sober. If you were using when you started dating, that might be part of what sustained the relationship for her- the inability for it to go forward.
evilgriff
And you didn’t live together? I think you are going to be okay, in fact probably better to move on.