ScootyMcDoop
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Thanks to following @Shenaniganz80 and @ThatOtherGirlYouKnow posts worked up enough to tell at least mom, who was super supportive and put a lot of anxiety to rest. At some point I'll post something other than this stuff, but for now still lurking and just wanted to say thanks to a really positive community here, even with the site slowly losing what made it great in the first place.
mothmam
Congrats! Good for you!
BecomingJess
Congrats on coming out, and congrats on having supportive parents! Welcome!
Totallyscrewedinaustin
Awesome! I'm so happy for you!
foreverinchains
ILoveThiPlatform
Mazel tov!
MrFancyPanzer
Outstanding!
ClassyPirating
I remember coming out to my parents about a year ago. I was expecting the worst and broke down crying when it came out ok. Im glad you have parents who act like rational parents should and are supportive of their child. We shouldn't have to live in a world where we feel like we are playing Russian roulette when telling them.
RevolutionOnHerLips
Hell yeah sibling! High five moment for sure.
EstoyPoopis
Fuck yeah, bud. SO happy for ya.
WellThatsJustWhatWeCallPillowTalkBaby
Congratulations OP! It takes ALL of the courage in the world to do that. It took me decades to fully come out as queer to my family. So proud of you friend, so happy that it went well.
DrasticBastard
loxiabun
🏳️‍⚧️💜
TheDisembodiedFloatingHeadOfEdwardGRobinson
Congratulations!! I can only imagine how much courage that took, and how much relief you must be feeling now. Thank you for making the world a little more interesting by being you. We are behind you 100%. <3
ScootyMcDoop
thank you, and your awesome as hell username!
ArenJ6
I'm so glad that even in the current state of this site, the community can still push through and be supportive and help. Congrats!
BeachsideBarghest
RedgrintGrumble
🙌🙌🙌
MaybeIllDisappear
That's awesome OP! Welcome to the club.
Fayen
If anyone comes out as trans or gay or whatever and your parents disown you - I will adopt you, I support you, and I love you.
JSymphony
Fuck yeah
JessicaShadowless
My wife is leaving me for coming out as trans and it's all my fault. Jesus God in heaven it hurts so much. We are trying a marriage counselor and she's so angry. I'm so sorry I'm sorry I don't know why I'm like this.
ScootyMcDoop
I’m so sorry you’re hurting right now. Hope so much that things work out what is right for you, please hang in there.
AverySomething
i'm so sorry you're going through that. i did it in reverse order and it hurt like hell, but i found a kind of happiness i'd never known on the other side. Hang in there. As for the why of it? It's because it's who you are and there's no changing that. It's biology. The human brain has male/female variants and yours is apparently female. Grats on figuring it out and taking steps to realizing your truth. Everything gets so much better the longer estrogen does its thing and your brain rebalances.
urusername2
I'm so happy for you. 80 y/o straight grandad here. You have my love too! Hugs
BastardMan1977
That's awesome OP!
graehall
Really fucking proud of you @OP, and your mum, and I'm so happy we've got such a supportive trans community here
PostalHeathen
That's awesome! That's a scary moment. Coming out to my mom was the third hardest (after my wife and myself). I'm glad they've got your back!
ScootyMcDoop
omg, i was shaking so much, it was crazy, until it wasn't and after a few days just the amount of love and acceptance I couldn't even imagine
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
So happy for you!!!! Congrats!!!
Jamesstin
Pretty sure I hurt my moms feelings because I told my aunt first as like a practice run
ScootyMcDoop
I made sure to say at the time why I told some others first, was worried about the same thing
PostalHeathen
My wife was hurt that I talked to people online before I talked to her, but I needed a bit of help to get my head straight before I risked upending my entire life. By the time I told my mom, I was already a month and a half into HRT.
ThisGuyPostingThings
So glad to hear about people taking steps to be their real selves, and being supported by their families. Congratulations!
twoamartist
I’m so happy for you.
TwoForSpookin
Nice to know there are still good people in this world. Proud of you, OP!
ScootyMcDoop
Thanks, it was way too long coming, and just the amount of support was like, why didn't I do this sooner. Good place right now
TwoForSpookin
As a cis bro it would be unfair for me to say I understand, but I sure would’ve been hesitant to come out period, much less so with as hateful as people are these days. Again, proud of you!
ScootyMcDoop
appreciate the support still, and goddamn usernames on this site are always great
Antininny
conklin5
Good for you! (which is apparently not abbreviated as GFY)
ScootyMcDoop
really curious what else you'd use GFY for
Tarmaccian
“Go Yourself”
Ah, I missed a word there… ooops…
ScootyMcDoop
Wow, didn’t even make that connection at first!
Omnimorph2112
Must be so jarring when you said it to them and your mum or dad turned see-through. But hey, guess that's just what happens when you become a trans-parent
TheElliotPage
oh boo you.
ViscousCousCous
Showing this to my folks. We don't live near each other so they go to local pride events to give out hugs. Dad loves puns so he'll use this one!
cousteau
Oh god 🤦
ScootyMcDoop
zing!
Terran81
The first dad joke +1
When I came out as gay… my dad had no jokes. It was the 90’s though. Coming out stories now warm my heart.
Samthetrue
I'm sorry he had no jokes for his gay son. I guess he was a straight man...
Congratulations for being both funny and yourself. His loss for never learning about the real you
BananaForScaIe
*flips dad table* HE WINS PEOPLE!!! HE WINS TODAY!!!
bikergeek6249
I can only imagine if I had come out to my dad as bi. (He died like 25 years ago.) He would have disowned me amid a barrage of homophobic slurs, and then harangued my mother for the rest of her days for "letting [me] grow up like this" and "turning that kid into a [f-slur]".
Terran81
I expected that from my parents. I didn’t get cheers or anything. It’s was a lot of silence at first. Concerned facial expressions. Then “I’m sure this is just a phase. You’re only 17.” They eventually accepted it and my relationships. I’m 45 now lol. I was mid 20’s when they saw it wasn’t just a phase though. The world is very different from when I was young. I really hope it doesn’t regress back to how it was.
bikergeek6249
I think in the past a lot of bi people ended up in monogamous, heterosexual marriages because of the normativity around that kind of relationship. There's now recognition that if you're bi and you're in a relationship with an opposite-sex partner it doesn't make you "not-bi".
Samthetrue
I personally hate people who say "its just a phase". Life is a phase... one that will pass. But during that life you are who you are.
bikergeek6249
People told me "Goth" was "just a phase" too. *stares at playlists full of Siouxsie, The Cure, Sisters of Mercy, The Mission, etc.*
IHaveGreatKittenRecipes
I also hate that stupid phrase. 'it's just a phase' so's you having kids, Sharon, but here the fuck they are rubbing their snotty noses all over my shit and coughing on me asking if I have games on my phone. It's almost like humans exist in a matrix of interconnected phases that we define as linear time.
Weird.