Yakeshinu
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Seriously.
It's kitchen intensive hot and cold stuff.
It's also chocolate and caramel.
And I love my nephew, but he's got NO control, all attention. He'll dump a pot of the "whatever is on the stove" on himself before thinking.
Note: this is PARTICULARLY why I chose to not to have kids.
PresldentClef
Id just be blunt about it. If they have to be there, lock them away in a room with movies and games, be clear to their parent to watch them.
SquirrelWithATophat
I had to learn the hard way after decades of abuse/trauma that you have to watch out for your own mental health (that includes not needlessly subjecting yourself to excessive stress trying to put up with people) first and foremost. If having a particular person around will cause you undue duress from having to excessively monitor them, or walk on eggshells around them, etc, then unless a judge has ordered you to be their primary caregiver you are under no obligation to invite them over.
MoreOfABrewerReally
Just be honest, and perhaps you'll hear "Dude, you don't think I know my kid's an asshole? Try living with him."
friendsofsandwiches
if a 12 year old is THAT uncontrollable in that way, I'd have to say either there's something wrong with them, or they should just be given a kitchen of stuff, and an adult there who just stands back with first aid kit and fire extinguisher, and lets them go whole hog, only intervening when they seriously hurt themselves, or catch shit on fire.
Sometimes they gotta learn the hard way to make it stick.
Eddyrock
As someone who has a special needs kid who is difficult to have in social situations, it’s likely they already know so just be honest.
“I just can’t handle your child’s behavior in these kinds of situations and I’d like you to find them somewhere else to be if you’re going to attend.”
Skuggen
Don't invite kids if it's not safe for kids.
Yakeshinu
I mean, that's LITERALLY the question I'm asking here, my friend.
Yakeshinu
I'm not inviting the kid. I'd like to invite his mom (my sister).
"Hey sis, we're doing a family thing, but get a sitter or whatever you parents do, because your kid is absolutely not welcome!"
While that may be accurate, it's not good for family dynamics going forward.
sometimesarobot
"Open to all responsible ages, no one that can't be left alone will be admitted"
Yakeshinu
Ha! You assume that she is aware that she has no control of her child.
That's pretty central to the issue. :D
sometimesarobot
Ohh or "Adults Only Night, leave the kids at home"
People love that shit
Yakeshinu
That's...a surprisingly good take. It'll be difficult to pull off, considering she's the only one with a child, but I can work with the idea. Thanks!
sometimesarobot
Invite a friend with a kid to make her not feel singled out?
SkinnerTBD
Yakeshinu
SkinnerTBD
Escapist83
Will there be other kids there? Can you just say "no kids at all" or are they the only people who would bring one. You might be stuck just being honest.
Yakeshinu
No, just my parents, my sister, and oh, wait, not her child.
Yikes.
That's the issue.
Escapist83
You might just be fucked. Either deal with the uncontrollable kid or don't invite your sister.
Yakeshinu
Yeah, it was a long shot asking for advice when I pretty much knew the answer, but just look at all of the DVs I'm racking up. XD
DYLANLEE79
Just tie the kid to the dogs and put them all in the back yard.
Yakeshinu
I mean, you're not wrong...
DYLANLEE79
If you need any more child rearing advice from a single childless gay man you know where to find me.
Yakeshinu
Noted.
DYLANLEE79
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Yakeshinu
Wait, you're married to Ruby? And what the hell is a "Padelekki?!?"
LifeIsADanceOfMinds
*Are you sure the tag "Funny" should be used here?
A significant discussion with the parents is in order. But get some info first, i.e. are they clowning, are they self harming, will they be a danger to others? Be ready to have your mind changed. It might only be you.
Yakeshinu
Um... yeah, I didn't add the funny tag.
LifeIsADanceOfMinds
Bad 'bot. Must be spanked.
Yakeshinu
Go it. Bend over Business Daddy! XD
SquirrelWithATophat
The site sometimes automatically adds the "funny" tag to posts if the person uploading it didn't include enough tags of their own.
DutchBoeremeisie
It doesn't?
SquirrelWithATophat
I think I'd know given that it has happened to me plenty of times. And I know I'm not the only one it happens to, because I have seen people discuss this very thing several times over the years after the tag was automatically added to posts where it clearly wasn't appropriate.
Yakeshinu
And I was just DVd for saying that I didn't add it.
Go boys, I guess?
Yakeshinu
**BOTS
SquirrelWithATophat
Many people are willfully ignorant and get upset if anything doesn't neatly fit within their narrow view of how things are supposed to be. Because to them acknowledging they were wrong or made a mistake feels like persecution. In that regard they are little different from bigots who are scared of anything they don't understand and label anything different from themselves as "evil" to justify their hatred of it and unwillingness to learn about it so that it no longer scares them.