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Girl on the left sent me this picture today. Its from one of her birthdays. The guy in the middle committed suicide yesterday. I wasnt super close with him. Worked with each other for two years and hung out quite a few times. Always a pleasure to be around. Im the one they are struggling to hold up btw. He was always smiling and having fun. I guess what im trying to say is you never know what battles someone is fighting. Be kind.
captainscrewdriver
He looks like a young Ricky gervais
juxtjCandyBaroness
this looked like someone I haven't met yet, i had to call and check to make sure he was alive. check on your friends and acquaintances
flunkmesideways
So sad. I always have this punch in the gut feeling when I read something like this. I don't even have to know the person at all.
jaydar
So so sorry...
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
That really sucks, OP. Sorry for your loss.
justino37
FalseAlarmAlaikum
Super sorry, dude! But you seem to have contributed to him smiling, so you can at least feel good about that. Can we ever do more...?
ThingsYouCantUnsee
Im torn. On the one hand i feel bad for everyone who feels hurt by his passing. On the other im glad hes not in pain anymore.
cryogenian
I feel for you. A casual friend committed suicide about 15 years ago, and I still think about him.
OutlawAggie
I know from experience some of the people smiling the widest are doing so to hide from the darkest things
BlackDragoness
The funniest people I know are hanging on to this world, this life, by a thread.
ShawarmaBaby
this is heavy
UnicornofPeril
I'm the nerdy gay friend who tells perverted jokes while pretending to be a wizard. I first attempted suicide at 13. Don't suffer. Talk.
anunknwon
So do I T_T
IDontKnowHowToHuman
That's the problem with me. I DO talk. I'm totally honest & open about it, which is (apparently) why I have almost no friends left.
enygma981
Sometime you don't get the choice to not smile.
WillieAndMartinHandcartCompanies
In my case there is always darkness below, but it has never risen too close to the surface. Sorry for the loss of your friend and his fam.
bashful331
My friend tried committing suicide yesterday and is now hospitalized. Her second attempt in 3 years.
bashful331
I hung out with her Monday and Tuesday.
Myfamilyjewelshaveascendedinsidemeturnedintoovariesandexploded
Be excellent to each other.
BotoxBabe
This is so true. I'm the happy/joke telling/goofy person but after a series of bad events.... I've been struggling too
jimmyjam13
I'm in the same boat. Always joke around don't take things too serious. Makes it feel even worse having to hide it. Keep your head up.
BotoxBabe
Thanks man. It made me feel worse when people made various comments like "put this behind you"...etc. Um recovery takes time
springuy8
Depression comes on in crippling waves that seem relentless at times. If your lucky enough to have people around that love you and can pull
springuy8
You up you might make it. Otherwise it's alot like drowning.
BrickorBottle
On point description.
sheldonthetinydinosaur
Sheldon almost did this once, he is now happy he didn't and joined imgur
ZulluhZey
I love you Sheldon. And the fact that you speak about yourself in the third person. <3
JonSnowsFather
Us too, Sheldon
MegatronPewPew
I struggle w depression but outwardly in the friendly smiley guy. A lot of us are like this. I wish I knew the fuck as to why.
splithorizon
I am the same way
commanderkyubey
Same though. And then in the off chance someone does ask "Are you okay?" I always just default to "Yeah, I'm fine, why?"
MegatronPewPew
Yeah I'm guilty of that. The damn meme with the burning dog. It's like that. If I didn't have my son, I think I woulda bit a bullet in 2016
simplydifficult
People tell me I'm always smiling and laughing (too much at times). If only they knew.. This hits hard.
MegatronPewPew
I feel you. Forgot if I mentioned it but my brain is stupid. I'm told I'm the life of the party, all hearty and stuff, but like dead inside
baconandeggsminustheeggs
I'd probably stop holding people up in pictures.
IDontKnowHowToHuman
I just had the same thought! For example, I'm suicidal, and here's a photo of my prom
(guess which one I am?)
baconandeggsminustheeggs
That dude is short
IDontKnowHowToHuman
LOL yeah, him. He was a hilarious dude back in the day. And he has the same name as an annoying celebrity.
rattlebone10
As someone fighting depression, I Always put on a happy front when I'm out in public, or with anyone who isn't family.
anunknwon
Me too, but when I showing who I am to a person I love I just do not wanna let him see that side of mine. because I made him sad too.
JustNinja
You know what you guys deserve? Gir hug!
anunknwon
A hug just a moment and when you left everything comeback to where it is. But it make feel better.
JustNinja
I know hugs may not solve everything, but having someone hold you helps to keep you grounded in the most dire times.
anunknwon
Somehow that's true, thanks
BeeStingsAndHoney
The girl with the biggest smile at school, who was lovely to EVERYONE, killed herself a few years ago. I didn't know her struggles, because-
BeeStingsAndHoney
she had this lovely smile always. I visit her grave each year and cry, wishing I'd known, and told her that she was important to others.
Inappr0priate
You.. You visit get grave every year even tho you didn't know her....
BeeStingsAndHoney
No I knew her, I wish I'd known she was so unhappy. Not that I'd be able to help, but I'd at least try.
OldRazzIeDazzIe
We can't save everyone but we can try and do our best
BeeStingsAndHoney
Received and returned :)
IDontKnowHowToHuman
BeeStingsAndHoney
This.
withreallemons
I'm so sorry. I'm so fucking tired of people killing themselves; I wish everyone could see their own value. Someone, somewhere loves you.
denigreur
It's so much more than that.
SounderOxner
Wish everyone could see my value too. Anyone!
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IDontKnowHowToHuman
Or when your life is literally filled with constant, unbearable, uncurable, always-increasing pain.
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IDontKnowHowToHuman
YES!!! EXACTLY!!!
TroelsyTwo
Suicide doesn't get rid of your pain. You just pass it onto the people who care about you or even just who has to discover your corpse.
Huehuehuehuehuehuehufhuehue
So lets put more blame and burden on someone Who cant even get out of bed or even worse? Next You Will probably say its egoism to?
anunknwon
Then you didn't know what in their head.
andychristman2000
When I wanted to die I didn't really care much for the people around me, so that wasn't a factor. Just wanted everything to stop, strange...
dendere
So you have to keep living an horrible existence to make others happy? Got it.
notdepressed
ExActly im wanting so i dont hurt anyone
mineovermatter
Meh...YOUR pain is certainly home-care you no linger struggle with it. Yes, others then have their own pain from it.
mypotatohas47assholes
Go home you're drunk
confessionsofacataholic
It's the only thing that's kept me from doing it .
denigreur
Must admit that's what hold my hand in the past.
TroelsyTwo
Please don't. It's worse for a parents than if you are murdered. There's always shit in life to enjoy.
merelyadequategooglymoogly
This is a fallacy. Some people are incapable of joy.
confessionsofacataholic
I'm not . I've wanted to before . But I can't do that to them . Thank you for your concern
TroelsyTwo
I've been pretty down and just got myself an allotment. That's really given me a breath of fresh air. Hard work though. lol
AluminiumFalcon
So they should go on living a miserable existence so you don't have to feel bad. Got it.
elsiesta
I don't think it's quite that black and white, but I think it's unfair to put that guilt on suicidal people who are already struggling with-
TroelsyTwo
That's the thing. Their feelings aren't MORE important than anyone elses. Nor less. Everyone has shit to struggle with.
elsiesta
-many negative emotions. It can just as easily make them feel like their feelings are less important then others
IDontKnowHowToHuman
http://textimages.us/thanks/thanks07/thanks-267.gif As a chronically suicidal person, I get a lot more hate for it than sympathy :(
trickee
I've been suicidal multiple times since I was a kid. My mom killed herself in '04, when I was 29. I still struggle; however I would 1/2
trickee
NEVER EVER in a million years put my son through the same pain she put us through with her suicide. She wrecked a lot of ppl forever. 2/2.
AluminiumFalcon
Why can't you accept that she is in a better place and move on from it?
trickee
I don't believe in "better place." And I've moved on a million times. It's not something you can do once and be done.
TroelsyTwo
A better place?
pandasmakemehappy
They should get help instead of making everyone around them miserable
jcarn
Often easier said than done and even professional help is far from a guarantee.
pandasmakemehappy
Better to try to get help than to just fuck your family and friends up by being a fucktard and punching your own ticket.
jcarn
I agree but plenty of people punch out having already tried to seek help for years. Its not a simple thing
RemiRixJones
You're right. I have a few attempts behind me, so I don't like to admit it...but you are correct.
Stoneheartedlady
seeing my family afterwards wrecked me. But it's just added guilt to the pain, so in a way it's made things worse :/
TroelsyTwo
Just keep on going, one day at a time. Maybe address some imbalances. Or if it's due to drug abuse.. either way.
RemiRixJones
It was mental illness. I've made a lot of progress since then. Still occasional depression, but I'm more or less out of the woods. :)
wrngsurgeon
that's awesome! same here. almost out of the woods :)
RemiRixJones
Good for you! Keep going! :D
powerpookie9000
I'm glad you're still here.
RemiRixJones
Thank you. I'm glad I'm still here too. :P
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CreepyGingerKid
That shit makes me sad man. I couldn't think of losing my good friends.
FishingForConversation
It really fucking blows.
EricAndEmily
Sorry for your loss but I must say I'm loving the Avs jersey that guy has on
GetlnLoserWereGonnaOffendEveryone
0% support
doczaius
So... what you're saying is that taking zany holding people up photos causes suicide. Got it.
greenbottle22
So sad. Sorry for your loss, dude. =/
FishingForConversation
Thank you, you learn to live with it. I just wish I'd caught any signs that i could have talked to him about. None of us noticed any signs.
ButterfaceTaintClown
Ignore him, he's just @FishingForConversation again.
FishingForConversation
This time it's more than that.
ButterfaceTaintClown
I'm sure this is a profound moment in your healing process.
FishingForConversation
It's not about me either.
ButterfaceTaintClown
Sooooo... We don't do the holding up any more?
alivicwil
yeah... that's what I'm taking away from this!
FishingForConversation
Coincidences happen
MenloPart
I dated a girl with many problems some years ago. I tried to stay friends, but that became complicated when she tried to get the police
MenloPart
involved, but nothing came out of that. She struggled with depression, among other things. One month ago she fell off her motorcycle. I
MenloPart
do not know any details, but it was straight, level, and sunny. It seems she made some grievous error.
MenloPart
We dated for six months and I have zero pictures with her.
RrpmnJack
Sometimes being excellent to each other isn't enough. Don't battle your demons alone. Let someone know what you are going through>>
BobbalishBobbus
The problem is we too often brush off those who try to open up, and never realize we're doing it.
thorkun
My biggest fear is I tell someone this and they react by playing it off or pretending they don't notice.
YeahIGoToCollege
I tried to high five a fist bump once and it's just eating me up inside.
BadReactionToSimochi
Listen, you made a mistake. It's okay. Did people see it? Probably. Was it totally lame? Yes. But it's done. Move forward. I believe in you.
YeahIGoToCollege
Thanks man, it feels really good to get that off my chest.
IDontKnowHowToHuman
Thanks, that chuckle feels good
IAlwaysUpvoteLowBudgetCreativeWork
^this
Hostileye
Easier said than done.
hashtagpiglife
This is important. At your darkest you won't want to talk to anyone. It's scary, you feel weak for "bringing others down", but when you're
hashtagpiglife
well again, you'll realize it made all the difference. And maybe it will help you battle the next set of demons a little faster.
AlternativeFactss
Yeah, people in my life are awesome, but fuck, i'm battling some crazy shit. Entrenpeur facing bs legal stuff on national stage, low funds,
RrpmnJack
Your friends and family want to be there for you. And remember, you are not "ending the pain", you are just passing it to your loved ones.
TheRelevancyOfMyNameIsRelativelyIrrelevant
wouldn't it be nice if you could just end the pain? But no, its better that you suffer so that no one else does.
generallevi
Wow this hit close to home.
koopaya
But what if the pain is already radiating off of you, at all times? It creates an unhealthy environment.
LittleKnownOne
Right... platitudes are one thing but thus doesn't describe how things go in practice
dexlamrg
My brother's best friend growing up just ended his life. He was 35. I've been crying all day even though I didn't know him that well.
Mirisido
Except when they aren't and all you do is hurt them so you have to isolate yourself until you can get to a point you aren't hurting everyone
vikinglovechild
Eh, I've never enjoyed the argument that one's suicide hurts all those around thus they shouldn't do it. I mean to get to that point - 1/2
vikinglovechild
an individual is in immense internal turmoil. It's a selfish argument in my opinion, besides some suicide are impossible to prevent. 2/3
vikinglovechild
Some just never wanted to live, I know it's hard to believe but I've heard a tale or two about folks that were in such a predicament. 3/3
HaberdasherInGold
That's where psychiatric help comes in. It isn't easy to seek help for things like that, so it's important to encourage people to do so.
NeroTCB
You would be surprised what a smile can hide....
GamesDeen
That's such a true and devious saying. +1
Biglebowski748
True
oilburningto55er
Hello Dexter
mynewcharacter
My retail smile hides a lot of things.
WelcomeToTheShatterdome
Smiles are a blessing and a curse. Depending on how they are used
JeepersMedia
springuy8
No I wouldn't
somethrowaway12345678987654321
I have a feeling you didn't post that to be edgy, but that you were kinda down and the imgur community jumped to conclusions and assumed 1/
somethrowaway12345678987654321
you were just being rude
tootalltom
SendMrBrightsideMemes
Fuck off! +1 but I'm not happy about it
Dank420StonerLordSmokeWeedEveryDay
kah929
frontbuttpunch
A mask to be worn around people. Only to feel the true pain when you are alone.
dababe
Ain't that the truth!
Roqinn
Or how the jokes and laughter cover up the pain you are hiding. Robin Williams comes to mind.
LovveLetter
Robin Williams did not kill himself bc he was depressed. He did so bc he had a degenerative brain disease and would die anyway with dementia
CrystalGoens1
Sometimes the people who try to smile all the time are the ones struggling the hardest. I'm that kind of person.
Kleinstlebewesen
i know that feeling.
CrystalGoens1
I try to make my friends and loved ones happy no matter how bad I feel.
FaptainPicard
Like chronic gum disease. Go to the dentist, folks!
spoileddentist
As a dentist you can't hide gum disease. There is a 'special' smell that all of us dentist noticed the moment you open your mouth.
CaptainObvio
What's that smell like?? I gotta check
spoileddentist
Have u ever been to a volcano or hotspring? It kinda smell like that because of sulphur caused by degradation of bacteria byproduct.
MenloPart
So, I should come up with a different flavor breath mint than Hellfire and Brimstone?
ErinFromTheOffice
No bullshit, I have a dentist appointment at 8am tomorrow.
DreadPierateRoberts
You getting N20 ? I highly recommend it
aztek98
I had one today, all clean! :D
MenloPart
My dentist has been harassing me. My goal in life is to be the next Bleeding Gums Murphy.
ImYourOtherPersonality
Good luck!
rustyraggins
From suicide to some random persons dentist appointment
thrashedbarrier
You never know they could be suicidal and Maybe talking about their dentist appointment helps in a weird way
MenloPart
Or push them over the edge.
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FuryDivine
Richie Rich over here talkin about dentists and what not.
Darkspire
No shit. For the rest of us, brush, floss, mouthwash, pray.
IPoopOnCompanyTime
Wish I could afford a dentist. Bout to take a set of pliers to myself
MenloPart
Your teeth, right?
IPoopOnCompanyTime
Yeah