It is kind of counterintuitive that some of the strongest people often aren't very lean. I'd probably rather be moderately strong and look really great than be able to lift double the amount and look out of shape. I mean what if you were given a proposition that you could bench press 1,000 pounds but you'd be required to look johnah hill in his early days, would it be worth it?
There's a difference between fat and power lifter "fat". Power lifters have no need for being slender. It does not help them and dieting would actually reduce their power. Your core muscles build up and push the subcutaneous fat up so you LOOK fat because it's sitting on top of a wall of muscle that does not compress. That fat is extremely important because it provides stamina and energy.
He may look chubby, but he'd lay you the fuck out.
A lot of people commenting seem to have trouble understanding the conversation and meaning behind the words. She wasn't being rude to him at all, this was a friendly conversation on both sides. If you're offended by the conversation it's probably a case of being unfamiliar with slang and/or the speech patterns of people in that demographic. For instance, when she calls him a liar, she's not saying he's literally lying, it's just an expression of surprise. Like saying "no way!", "no shit!", etc.
As for asking about red flags, she doesn't mean things like that you beat your partner or whatever, it's more like you leave dirty clothes on the floor or drink directly out of the milk container. It's meant to be a lighthearted conversation not a dark confessional.
So first, why would she just assume he has to have red flags? And second, why would she think anyone would tell others, especially while being recorded, what their red flags are?
I wouldn't know how to answer that either. "Hey we just met but tell me the most negative thing about yourself".. Is completely unimpressed when he shows proof on something positive he decided to share instead.
He probably used pretty to mean generally physically attractive, not as a reference specifically to your face. A lot of people view being overweight as something that makes them unattractive, so it makes sense that if someone says they're overweight that the other person would respond by saying they're beautiful, attractive, whatever. Other people might just agree with you but in a way that shows your weight is irrelevant to them. It's two different ways of expressing the same concept.
He's strong and fat, if you got a lot of adipose tissue, that's fat. He also happens to have a lot of muscle. Both are true, it's common in that scene, they're essentially perma-bulking.
I can do pull-ups and inverse sit-ups, and am probably the strongest person on my job site, but I also enjoy food and packed on a lot of weight. I'm down 50 lbs rn and could stand to lose another 20 or so. So I was definitely fat despite being muscular. Also, I think I look even fatter than someone that weighs the same but has less muscle. Way less saggy stomach but way more man-tits.
What's wrong with trying to improve yourself? And how do you know he doesn't have other hobbies? It's a clip! You don't know. YOU are judgemental. Red Flag!
Is that supposed to be an abbreviation for seriously? I'm familiar with the cringey "Yasss queen slay" lingo, but I've no idea what slay is supposed to mean in this context.
Think of it like saying "no shit!?". Vs "yass slay queen" which is more like "you go girl!". You can get a lot of indications about the meaning by the inflection of her voice.
I guess I should have used the spoNgEbOb MocKiNG meme. I was mocking the person who I replied to. Because its an awfully agressive stance on a word that they dont understand.
You're making big assumptions that they dont understand the word. I think they do understand it, and they hate the usage. And you mocking them for it is not very nice.
I get that but wouldn't that be used after he revealed he could lift a lot. You wouldn't say "you go girl" after someone told you their job, you would after they told you they did something that is a big deal. Maybe it's just the way she says it that throws me off. Honestly these people who stand on the street and interview people for Internet clicks are usually the worst people anyway.
I think the inflection in her voice at the end of the word shows there is questioning involved with her exclamation. So it is more like... Oh slay?! (As in oh do you for real slay? Or no way you can do something like that?!)
You would say it if you were impressed or really surprised with what their job or hobby is. Like if someone says they're an astronaut or that their hobby is taming lions.
I need someone's help pinpointing what exactly about her personality (even if it's just the character she plays for these interviews) I absolutely despise. Because, wow I can't stand it.
Snap judgements and insulting accusations with no hesitation or sense that she may be wrong. No apology when she is proven wrong. Ironic that she's asking about red flags isn't it?
For me it was that she assumed he was lying and was in no way sorry for getting that assumption wrong. But it's her schtick and part of her act I guess
She's "on" for the camera - abnormally high energy, overly confrontational to get the most out of the interview, special voice that's louder than normal so that she can be heard over the crowd. It's the "MTV/TMZ/'We're Appealing to a Young Audience' Interviewer" style - and yeah, that tends to grate on the nerves of anyone that's not as excited by the content as the interviewer is pretending to be.
I mean, probably the way she wanted a man to speak negatively about himself, yells YOURE A LIAR when he tries to share something positive about himself; And then is not impressed when he shows her proof with that "okay?" At the end. Repulsive behavior.
Guy: "I'm actually a well adjusted person who has hobbies and generally doesn't have major red flags, at least that I'm aware of, because I deal with the nasty parts of my personality and focus my energy on positive, constructive things!"
Interviewer: "Hahaha, you're a liar, what's wrong with you, tell the whole world that you're a piece of shit or I don't get good content!"
that's the basic framework of all of these stupid fucking content farm videos and it's gross.
My favorite one is the laid back dude being interviewed talking about "Don't attribute to malice which should be attributed to ignorance" or something. Basically the "interviewer" was upset that at a mall, someone walked in front of their camera (friend with iphone I assume), so the laid back dude made the situation clear. I love that clip, because if I was the laid back dude and witnessed a grown man get butthurt because his toy interview set was messed with, I'd open palm slap him.
Isn't almost all media faked to some extent? Even nature documentaries stitch together clips of different individual animals when trying to tell a story? Art imitates life, art does not usually replicate life.
True, but these are low effort as well as fake. They don't even provide any meaningful information about the person. They're almost as bad as fake tabloid interviews.
I think it is the plastic/fake/bullshit of it all. It doesn't seem like a personality, it seems like a bit done for camera. That's like a whole persona that vapid people and influencers adopt
I scroll down to see if I was the only one. She's the living incarnation of everything awful about social media culture, where everything is fake and Amplified and performative. The combination of wildly exaggerated ego compensating for crippling insecurity is very off putting. And I think anybody who says the words oh, slay? Should be immediately punched in the face.
It's OK to see in others things we want for ourself even if you don't want everything. Maybe you admired her courage, or fashion, or laid back air. Just because I don't appreciate how she talks to him doesn't mean i can't find anything to like about her. I'm sure you have wonderful qualities and things to improve just like the rest of us, don't let others make you feel bad for valuing different traits than you do. You'll never please everyone so just make sure you annoy the people you want to.
I don't think saying everyone has red flags implies that. It's a red flag to say you don't have any. Nobody is perfect, and someone saying they don't have red flags is saying they don't self reflect.
Yes. Nobody is perfect but a red flag is something like narcissistic personality disorder or alcoholism or a foot fetish(jk). It's not meant to be 'I like to eat peaches with a fork'
There is a huge chasm between 'nobody is perfect' and 'everyone has red flags'. Red flag means danger, not that they may have an unusual hobby or something. Outside of the obvious red flags it is all subjective anyway. There needs to context to whom these things are red flags for. Like a red flag for me would be someone who doesn't read more than 10 books or so a year, but I would completely understand why someone who falls in the category wouldn't see that as a red flag themselves.
No, red flags are relationship killers, you don't have red flags just because you're not a perfect person (everyone has flaws), you don't have red flags even if you have disagreements or (polite) arguments to resolve. EVERYONE has "potential problems", but that's not what makes a "red flag". Red flags are like voting for Trump or being a MAP (Nazis/Pedos), not thinking you're a fairly normal person without any severe hang-ups... but then some people think being left-handed is a red flag, so.
I don't know that she's a terrible person, but I definitely hate the interviewing random ass people on the street content. It generally gives the people with the worst fucking opinion a platform to peddle their stupidity just to generate engagement and rage bait.
That's a bold assumption just from this clip. Unless you have more context to make this determination, it sounds like you're doing the thing you're accusing her of.
The extra context they have is mysoginy. They won't admit it and might get angry and they might even be a woman but I can guarantee that it's mysoginy. I've shown this video to 6 guys and 3 girls now and no one had that visceral reaction.
Yeah, I see these kinds of reactions on Imgur and Reddit daily, but I almost never encounter them in real life. It's got me thinking I need to spend less time on these places.
Or the fact that she asks him a negative personal question, rejects his answer no matter how personal it was to him, digs deeper, then all but calls him a liar twice...once literally. Her gender just may have had nothing to do with it.
Just speculation, but as quickly as you threw misogyny out there, those you showed the video to may be afraid to react strongly in any way to you.
Assuming this is an at least semi-staged interview, she did so in a way that made him look really good. (I've been asked to do this type of thing, they told me before what they wanted to ask about and how they'd do so, hence "semi-staged")
Even if it's entirely not staged, the fact her questions made her seem kinda shitty and negative gave him an easy way to look good in the interview. She then compliments him and puts the interview online specifically making him look good.
2) That being said I agree with you that I could be wrong and that I'm falsely assuming intent. I also agree that showing it to people I know is not scientific.
That's how people talk. You say she called him a liar twice yet what I saw is her using words to get the person to elaborate. It might not be your preferred way of communication but between 2 guys it would have been "how much you lift bro", "705" , "Liar", "no bro, I swear, look". And then nobody here would have said a thing
It's EXACTLY completely different. Men and women have completely different privileges and social scrutiny, not to mention the completely changed power dynamic. If he wanted to leave, it's as easy as walking away. If it were reversed and she wanted to leave, she'd have to worry he might kill or attack her for being "rude". Changing the sex of the people in a situation is just about the biggest change you can make to it.
Going by the comments here, people are reacting *very* negatively towards her for her comments, so I'm not sure the reaction could be very different if the genders were reversed. Unless you expected people to praise a guy for acting the way she did?
A red flag is a big "this person can't be trusted in a relationship" sign. You're saying *everyone* has something that entirely disqualifies them from a relationship?
With certain people, yes. It can denote incompatibility. Also. I googled it because I didn't want to be talking out of my ass, it doesn't necessarily havè to denot flaws
Words change meaning over time and gain the definition of how they're used, so i can't tell you you're using a phrase wrong if you're able to communicate your point effectively with people even if not with this community. That said. The resource you provided, to me, reads the opposite of what you say it reads. It specifies "unhealthy or manipulative behavior." The intended importance of having it only refer to extremes is to evoke a strong connotation of "beware. You're in danger."
lildude52ca
" I don't have red flags " and she reply's " Thats not true " after just 5 words with the man and never having met him before?Fuck this cunt
notmyrealface
She does not seem fun to be around. Her attitude of "I know better than you," is a HUGE red flag.
Dedmunkey
Dude is a beast 🤘
kathlTvVillain
Touchè !
sevenfingerman
give him your number
Syko73
I'm more concerned about HER red flags
xizar
Drum (1976).
donegal
I never had a gf too
PenguinNamedWobbles
It is kind of counterintuitive that some of the strongest people often aren't very lean. I'd probably rather be moderately strong and look really great than be able to lift double the amount and look out of shape. I mean what if you were given a proposition that you could bench press 1,000 pounds but you'd be required to look johnah hill in his early days, would it be worth it?
BlackTrashTiger
stickywiggit
There's a difference between fat and power lifter "fat". Power lifters have no need for being slender. It does not help them and dieting would actually reduce their power. Your core muscles build up and push the subcutaneous fat up so you LOOK fat because it's sitting on top of a wall of muscle that does not compress. That fat is extremely important because it provides stamina and energy.
He may look chubby, but he'd lay you the fuck out.
Righteousdew
I've never understood why people are impressed at other people lifting heavy things. So what?
drinkthederpentine
DYEL
AwwWrecker
Shoving a mic in someone's mouth and screaming "liar" at them seems like pretty big red flag to me.
AwkwardTurtle42
Honestly, that is why I never judge a guy by their looks. This man would be a BEAST. And I would be able to make all the BEST food with him.
Gaelwyn
A lot of people commenting seem to have trouble understanding the conversation and meaning behind the words. She wasn't being rude to him at all, this was a friendly conversation on both sides. If you're offended by the conversation it's probably a case of being unfamiliar with slang and/or the speech patterns of people in that demographic. For instance, when she calls him a liar, she's not saying he's literally lying, it's just an expression of surprise. Like saying "no way!", "no shit!", etc.
Gaelwyn
As for asking about red flags, she doesn't mean things like that you beat your partner or whatever, it's more like you leave dirty clothes on the floor or drink directly out of the milk container. It's meant to be a lighthearted conversation not a dark confessional.
VinnyVeritas
big boi not lying
Yuktio
So first, why would she just assume he has to have red flags? And second, why would she think anyone would tell others, especially while being recorded, what their red flags are?
EternallyIgnorant
Content.
AllTheseFlavors
I wouldn't know how to answer that either. "Hey we just met but tell me the most negative thing about yourself".. Is completely unimpressed when he shows proof on something positive he decided to share instead.
Strangeboke
IDK, he agreed to the interview and seems fine with it. I'd probably say I'm a really sloppy eater and keep a messy hamper.
getyourfruitoffmeyoudamndirtygrapes
"slay"....just no...no thanks gen z.
tarnok
But "cool" is ok?
Manhoarder
would you prefer "radical" or are you old enough to remember the term "far out"? All of these are the same thing, just across different generations.
Westhib
She’s a red flag.
Strangeboke
IDK, I think street interviewers are obnoxious, but its also their job. It's like a guy selling peanuts. Not like that all the time, you'd hope.
youreathing
"O slay??!" <--- red flag for me.
TroubledGeometry
Why. Maybe I'm not hip to today's jive but I've heard that used in the context of positive reinforcement.
MrNobodyWTB
aerodynamit3
Powerlifter fat isn't really "fat" the way most people use it
HandsomePenguin
Still doesnt stop people who dont know you are a powerlifter from calling you fat.
DameDePiques
It's the same fat as other people's. They just have a lot of muscles underneath the fat.
HelikaformerNubisKnight9
"Von einem Fass hat man mehr als von einem sixpack!"
LeeeB
For the non German speakers: u got more from a keg than a six pack
hfctom
"Put up or shut up!" Mam, I have the receipts
Euoric
I hate how much she doubted him and called him a liar.
whatspaulplayingtoday
"Everyone must be as terrible and as much of a liar as me!" - I'm not gonna call her out, but this is how it sounded to me.
bamcobra
Red flag?
corylusavellana
705 is a lot, she was being playful.
Shovi
If this is being playful for you, then you should stop playing games.
MrHorseManBaby
"I'm fat!" I like the cut of his jib.
Lontri
It's like, I mentioned to a guy that I'm chubby, and he said "no, you're pretty" and I was like "chubby doesn't mean ugly, you asshole"
Gaelwyn
He probably used pretty to mean generally physically attractive, not as a reference specifically to your face. A lot of people view being overweight as something that makes them unattractive, so it makes sense that if someone says they're overweight that the other person would respond by saying they're beautiful, attractive, whatever. Other people might just agree with you but in a way that shows your weight is irrelevant to them. It's two different ways of expressing the same concept.
DarkwingDuc
Reminds me of this brand: https://kindafitkindafat.com/
moemoe4786
With respect, none of those dudes come off at "kinda fit" or "kinda fat", they look like beasts to me. A+ physique.
JFMiskatonic
"I don't like the cut of your jib!"
"IT'S THE ONLY JIB I GOT, BABY!!!"
MrHorseManBaby
Your handle "JFMiskatonic". Are you a fellow occultist?
JFMiskatonic
Iä! Iä!
MrHorseManBaby
Oh ah okay gotcha! lol https://www.miskatonicbooks.com/
WigglyBlondeNoodle
But like presumably he's not fat? He just has a ton of muscle which requires ample fat around it to protect it and provide energy during his lifts.
corylusavellana
He's strong and fat, if you got a lot of adipose tissue, that's fat. He also happens to have a lot of muscle. Both are true, it's common in that scene, they're essentially perma-bulking.
SecondHandDeathWish
I can do pull-ups and inverse sit-ups, and am probably the strongest person on my job site, but I also enjoy food and packed on a lot of weight. I'm down 50 lbs rn and could stand to lose another 20 or so.
So I was definitely fat despite being muscular.
Also, I think I look even fatter than someone that weighs the same but has less muscle. Way less saggy stomach but way more man-tits.
VoxAmericana
You're muscular and you say you have man-tits. Can you make 'em dance? If so, those are pecs friendo, be proud. :)
SecondHandDeathWish
I can make them dance, but they also do hang lower than they should, due to a more-than solid layer of blubber on top 😅
cbjfan
"What's a jib?"
DasBeaker
HAAA!! Promote that man!
electrajet
Jib: The foresail on a sloop.
harmsebamse
I like the cut of your... Foresail...
onecrazycanuk365
Boom
kiwizthetank2
The last thing you hear when you forget to duck.
electrajet
cbjfan
habslove
"I don't have any red flags" That's a red flag.
HandsomePenguin
Or, he is funny, and is using humor for the stranger that approached him in the street and put a camera in his face.
yourmomsfavoriteplayer
Ok what's your red flag?
habslove
I have plenty, not sure what this has to do with anything though? Thanks for your concern!
Raikupath
Don't understand why you're being downvoted. TBH a person whose personality consists of "I go to the gym" is a red flag in itself.
Canofminus
So, having a hobby, taking care of yourself, and staying out of trouble is a red flag?
TonyDiethelm
What's wrong with trying to improve yourself? And how do you know he doesn't have other hobbies? It's a clip! You don't know. YOU are judgemental. Red Flag!
n0n53n53
It's a sport. He devotes a lot of time to his sport that he's clearly good at.
BloodyDisappointment
A true red flag is judging someones personality based on a less than 30 second clip.
EternallyIgnorant
Are you judging the commenter above you from the single sentence they wrote?
n0n53n53
judging their opinion on the thing the wrote about? yes
JCBalance
His personality when he wasn't even the one that brought it up, lol ok.
Raikupath
Didn't talk about him but okay
Raikupath
I guess a lot of people whose "personality" consists of "I go to the gym" got butthurt lol
HandsomePenguin
Yeah, talking down about an entire group of people, whats not to be upset about?
TheNLK
Yeah trying to be fit, huge red flag. What a fucking moron lmao
Sebastopol140
oh slay!
FiftyShadesOfBroccoli
Is that supposed to be an abbreviation for seriously? I'm familiar with the cringey "Yasss queen slay" lingo, but I've no idea what slay is supposed to mean in this context.
Gaelwyn
Think of it like saying "no shit!?". Vs "yass slay queen" which is more like "you go girl!". You can get a lot of indications about the meaning by the inflection of her voice.
n0n53n53
instant red flag
WeeemRCB
Just cos he's fat doesn't make him Santa
spittytrinkles
RED FLAG!
ishallbeknownastheplacebo
dumbest fucking shit i've heard.
Soujaofmisfortune
You sound like a ray of fucking sunshine. /s
OppaGangnamPyle
I feel like you haven't been exposed to enough dumb shit then. There's so much dumber shit out there
am3x1cant0k32
Congratulations friend you are old. Don’t forgot to take some ibuprofen.
ChilupaBatman
Careful Friend. Father time, along with ibuprofen, comes for everyone...
HandsomePenguin
Oh no, language is constantly changing, and instead of accepting it, I lash out. Change is scary.
Shovi
So by this logic then the actual change would be it not changing, so why are you lashing out at it?
HandsomePenguin
I guess I should have used the spoNgEbOb MocKiNG meme. I was mocking the person who I replied to. Because its an awfully agressive stance on a word that they dont understand.
Shovi
You're making big assumptions that they dont understand the word. I think they do understand it, and they hate the usage. And you mocking them for it is not very nice.
Jewdakris
I may not understand the slang over here with my onion on my belt but that doesn't seem like the right way to use that.
gordy77
It was the style at the time
algavinn
This is the correct current usage.
WrongUn
You're absolutely fetch.
snafu999
"because that was the style at the time"
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Rathan5
“From the 1900s” Now look here you little shit…
shankelstoff
Oh slay!
Jewdakris
I get that but wouldn't that be used after he revealed he could lift a lot. You wouldn't say "you go girl" after someone told you their job, you would after they told you they did something that is a big deal. Maybe it's just the way she says it that throws me off. Honestly these people who stand on the street and interview people for Internet clicks are usually the worst people anyway.
SaltyCoastie
I think the inflection in her voice at the end of the word shows there is questioning involved with her exclamation. So it is more like... Oh slay?! (As in oh do you for real slay? Or no way you can do something like that?!)
Gaelwyn
You would say it if you were impressed or really surprised with what their job or hobby is. Like if someone says they're an astronaut or that their hobby is taming lions.
afroniner
I need someone's help pinpointing what exactly about her personality (even if it's just the character she plays for these interviews) I absolutely despise. Because, wow I can't stand it.
FraudulentPepsi
Zoomer
HinderingB00m
If your a guy its Probably that she wanted him to be wrong in a situation she put him in.
SugarSmack
Snap judgements and insulting accusations with no hesitation or sense that she may be wrong. No apology when she is proven wrong. Ironic that she's asking about red flags isn't it?
ImaginaryMamboNumber5
For me it was that she assumed he was lying and was in no way sorry for getting that assumption wrong. But it's her schtick and part of her act I guess
OPsFatMom
Vapid and annoying, like most content creators.
CatEyebrows
Huge extrovert vibes
Clayholer
You're a man: you must have red flags. You power lift? Liar.
Navrodel
She's "on" for the camera - abnormally high energy, overly confrontational to get the most out of the interview, special voice that's louder than normal so that she can be heard over the crowd.
It's the "MTV/TMZ/'We're Appealing to a Young Audience' Interviewer" style - and yeah, that tends to grate on the nerves of anyone that's not as excited by the content as the interviewer is pretending to be.
afroniner
Confrontational! That's the word!!
notmyrealface
Her, "I know better than you," attitude is a HUGE red flag.
AllTheseFlavors
I mean, probably the way she wanted a man to speak negatively about himself, yells YOURE A LIAR when he tries to share something positive about himself; And then is not impressed when he shows her proof with that "okay?" At the end. Repulsive behavior.
wabitgirl
Guy: "I'm actually a well adjusted person who has hobbies and generally doesn't have major red flags, at least that I'm aware of, because I deal with the nasty parts of my personality and focus my energy on positive, constructive things!"
Interviewer: "Hahaha, you're a liar, what's wrong with you, tell the whole world that you're a piece of shit or I don't get good content!"
that's the basic framework of all of these stupid fucking content farm videos and it's gross.
WienerBeener
It's the same with all of these "interviews" they're inherently disingenuous. They feel fake, because they really are. Its peak lazy content.
NarratesTheDarkerStory
My favorite one is the laid back dude being interviewed talking about "Don't attribute to malice which should be attributed to ignorance" or something. Basically the "interviewer" was upset that at a mall, someone walked in front of their camera (friend with iphone I assume), so the laid back dude made the situation clear. I love that clip, because if I was the laid back dude and witnessed a grown man get butthurt because his toy interview set was messed with, I'd open palm slap him.
ThisNameUnavailable
Isn't almost all media faked to some extent? Even nature documentaries stitch together clips of different individual animals when trying to tell a story? Art imitates life, art does not usually replicate life.
Shewy92
Shh, let the internet dweebs pretend they just said something profound and are better than people who consume these types of videos
WienerBeener
True, but these are low effort as well as fake. They don't even provide any meaningful information about the person. They're almost as bad as fake tabloid interviews.
Tumescentpie
I think it is the plastic/fake/bullshit of it all. It doesn't seem like a personality, it seems like a bit done for camera. That's like a whole persona that vapid people and influencers adopt
nikored
I scroll down to see if I was the only one. She's the living incarnation of everything awful about social media culture, where everything is fake and Amplified and performative. The combination of wildly exaggerated ego compensating for crippling insecurity is very off putting. And I think anybody who says the words oh, slay? Should be immediately punched in the face.
maryrella9000
This and she comes off as an asshole
nikored
That's the short version, yeah
ActualZedAxial
Rich white girl appropriating marginalized sub cultural speech paterns in an inauthentic and craven manner
ProfXomox
smugness
eightytwoeightytwoeightytwo
*SMUGNESS
PapaSez
*Wildly UNEARNED SMUGNESS
TheRedBaron8
She is a cunt?
edevolt
She is the red flag, and she doesn't know it yet.
canadianreserve
She is a bitch. This type of content is lazy and derogatory.
ottercontrol
Who is she?
tattywater
She's fucking annoying
ottercontrol
I get that, doesn't tell me who she is
SomeDetroitGuy
She's outgoing and self-confident.
ICantPeelMyFaceWhenImWithYou
And shrill
afroniner
She's a dick.
Blasfemur
For me, an 18th ſentury landed gente, it is but this commoner dareſ affeact a familiare tone without deferenſe.
SantaBananas
Fyi, the s at the end of a word is still written as an "s"
Blasfemur
Holie ſhite!
drinkthederpentine
Top tier comment lmao
DarkwingDuc
More likely to be something in you than in her.
afroniner
I'd agree if this was about her as a person. I'm talking about personality though.
HypnagogicHallucinations
afroniner
You think character and personality are the same thing?
Badgerbadgerson3
...and here I was wishing I were more like her.
PenguinRiderKing
Only takes an only fans account and a cameraman. Oh and an obnoxious personality.
Izdleve
It's OK to see in others things we want for ourself even if you don't want everything. Maybe you admired her courage, or fashion, or laid back air. Just because I don't appreciate how she talks to him doesn't mean i can't find anything to like about her. I'm sure you have wonderful qualities and things to improve just like the rest of us, don't let others make you feel bad for valuing different traits than you do. You'll never please everyone so just make sure you annoy the people you want to.
isszuSparkleBandit
The shit eating grin when she didn't believe him
imakebuns
It's performative. Easy to see how unappealing it is.
SilverFoxChaser
She's superficial and assumes everyone is as terrible a person as she is.
Littledirtybirdyfeet
I don't think saying everyone has red flags implies that. It's a red flag to say you don't have any. Nobody is perfect, and someone saying they don't have red flags is saying they don't self reflect.
astrangehop
That's stupid, and awful. A red flag is an obvious sign of a glaring personality flaw. Most people who are well rounded don't have them.
Littledirtybirdyfeet
I googled it before commenting
SilverFoxChaser
Yes. Nobody is perfect but a red flag is something like narcissistic personality disorder or alcoholism or a foot fetish(jk). It's not meant to be 'I like to eat peaches with a fork'
Littledirtybirdyfeet
Red flags are any behavior that signals potential problems. Someone unable to self reflect is one.
somerandomusernamebecauseididntlikemyoldone
There is a huge chasm between 'nobody is perfect' and 'everyone has red flags'. Red flag means danger, not that they may have an unusual hobby or something. Outside of the obvious red flags it is all subjective anyway. There needs to context to whom these things are red flags for. Like a red flag for me would be someone who doesn't read more than 10 books or so a year, but I would completely understand why someone who falls in the category wouldn't see that as a red flag themselves.
EtherealJuliet
No, red flags are relationship killers, you don't have red flags just because you're not a perfect person (everyone has flaws), you don't have red flags even if you have disagreements or (polite) arguments to resolve. EVERYONE has "potential problems", but that's not what makes a "red flag". Red flags are like voting for Trump or being a MAP (Nazis/Pedos), not thinking you're a fairly normal person without any severe hang-ups... but then some people think being left-handed is a red flag, so.
ilovetraveler
I don't know that she's a terrible person, but I definitely hate the interviewing random ass people on the street content. It generally gives the people with the worst fucking opinion a platform to peddle their stupidity just to generate engagement and rage bait.
DarkwingDuc
That's a bold assumption just from this clip. Unless you have more context to make this determination, it sounds like you're doing the thing you're accusing her of.
spookyactionatadistance
The extra context they have is mysoginy. They won't admit it and might get angry and they might even be a woman but I can guarantee that it's mysoginy. I've shown this video to 6 guys and 3 girls now and no one had that visceral reaction.
DarkwingDuc
Yeah, I see these kinds of reactions on Imgur and Reddit daily, but I almost never encounter them in real life. It's got me thinking I need to spend less time on these places.
spookyactionatadistance
Ya. I see them way less here than on places like YT comments but they still pop up.
Meryck
Or the fact that she asks him a negative personal question, rejects his answer no matter how personal it was to him, digs deeper, then all but calls him a liar twice...once literally. Her gender just may have had nothing to do with it.
Just speculation, but as quickly as you threw misogyny out there, those you showed the video to may be afraid to react strongly in any way to you.
CoBr2
Assuming this is an at least semi-staged interview, she did so in a way that made him look really good. (I've been asked to do this type of thing, they told me before what they wanted to ask about and how they'd do so, hence "semi-staged")
Even if it's entirely not staged, the fact her questions made her seem kinda shitty and negative gave him an easy way to look good in the interview. She then compliments him and puts the interview online specifically making him look good.
spookyactionatadistance
2) That being said I agree with you that I could be wrong and that I'm falsely assuming intent. I also agree that showing it to people I know is not scientific.
spookyactionatadistance
That's how people talk. You say she called him a liar twice yet what I saw is her using words to get the person to elaborate. It might not be your preferred way of communication but between 2 guys it would have been "how much you lift bro", "705" , "Liar", "no bro, I swear, look". And then nobody here would have said a thing
afroniner
I can only imagine how people would react if roles were reversed and a guy was saying to a girl...
"You're a fucking liar"
"You definitely have red flags"
Badgerbadgerson3
So you're telling me a completely different situation would be received differently? Well that just seems silly!
afroniner
Idk if I'd call it "completely different"
unsneakyLurker
Yup - "everything's the same but the genders are reversed" is pretty far from "completely different"
Badgerbadgerson3
It's EXACTLY completely different. Men and women have completely different privileges and social scrutiny, not to mention the completely changed power dynamic. If he wanted to leave, it's as easy as walking away. If it were reversed and she wanted to leave, she'd have to worry he might kill or attack her for being "rude". Changing the sex of the people in a situation is just about the biggest change you can make to it.
NickRivieraMD
Pretty sure it'd be fine.
Badgerbadgerson3
Also, everyone has red flags, and 90% of the time most guys lie about what they can lift.
stevencloser
You seem to have a very different definition for what a red flag is.
SpawnLegacy
"all-or-nothing thinking is a cognitive distortion often linked to negative thinking, anxiety, and low mood."
Littledirtybirdyfeet
I personally would react the same way to anyone claiming they have no red flags. It says they don't self examine.
What would be an example of a woman boasting that wouldn't be readily believed, though? These tits are real?
afroniner
That's fair. I'd say something related to career progress, income, or accomplishment could get a similar response.
LoudBirb
Going by the comments here, people are reacting *very* negatively towards her for her comments, so I'm not sure the reaction could be very different if the genders were reversed. Unless you expected people to praise a guy for acting the way she did?
afroniner
Well yea, she's acting like a dick. And correct that's sorta my point. But I believe a guy in her shoes would get reamed out.
Everyonesfavorite
I live on $3 a day
stevencloser
A red flag is a big "this person can't be trusted in a relationship" sign. You're saying *everyone* has something that entirely disqualifies them from a relationship?
Littledirtybirdyfeet
With certain people meaning a red flag may be a red flag for one person but a pink flag or green flag for others
Littledirtybirdyfeet
With certain people, yes. It can denote incompatibility. Also. I googled it because I didn't want to be talking out of my ass, it doesn't necessarily havè to denot flaws
spillblood
Serious question, is an AI generated overview considered a credible source?
Izdleve
Words change meaning over time and gain the definition of how they're used, so i can't tell you you're using a phrase wrong if you're able to communicate your point effectively with people even if not with this community. That said. The resource you provided, to me, reads the opposite of what you say it reads. It specifies "unhealthy or manipulative behavior." The intended importance of having it only refer to extremes is to evoke a strong connotation of "beware. You're in danger."
Rathan5
I mean if a women said she could squat 705 I’d also disbelieve without video evidence
afroniner
But would you immediately call her a "fucking liar"?