HereTodayGoneTomato
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Feb 27, 2023 11:35 AM
HereTodayGoneTomato
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eightytwoeightytwoeightytwo
Holy s*** that's one of the best stories I've read in my entire life.
Santa9
All the feels. Grief hits everyone different. You do you. This reads like a story from The Moth! You should submit it!
justmemyselfi
This made me feel. That’s not all that easy to do
tylerlarson
Some people need to go to funerals. Some people need to NOT go to funerals. Neither should shame the other We all deal with loss differently
Lucallia
bring a great big golf umbrella to his grave. sit down together and say your goodbyes if you need closure.
fraggles9000
Hi @op. This is some solid writing. If you're ever interested in swapping writing with someone, please feel free to message me.
UmmIsThisThingOn
Attending a funeral isn’t the measure of how much you care(d) for someone. It’s how you think and speak of them long after they’re gone.
greydragon
You wanna make him laugh, pee your pants. No matter where he is, he will laugh his head off.
pixelscapes
I’m so sorry…. No need to feel guilty about the funeral. You know he wouldn’t want you to guilt out. Take good care of yourself, please.
PrincessWendyB
Please remember to make time for the people who make you happy. There will always be work, and worry; what's rare is finding joy.
buffalowineguy
Yo what the fuck.
TheDrunkenWrench
I lost my best friend of 17 years in 2019. I hate forgetting she's gone and remembering it all over again.
stealthismeme
Draygen
The last time i talked to my friend's dad, he was making jokes about the chemo, and had me rolling. I didn't go to the funeral.
Draygen
I didn't want to change my last memory of him. When i told my friend, he said, "Good. I'm glad you didn't go then. I understand."
amtronic
To the FP
Mxlespxles
Floated aloft on a sea of tears
Tomigami
When the skies weep for your loss, dance in their tears and celebrate with their memory
wyrde
I never met Jacob, but through your words I now love him. Splash a puddle and laugh for the life he lived. Thank you.
Rawrgunnaeatyou
In highschool my older cousin passed away. My mom was close with her, but couldn't stand the idea of going to the funeral. We mourned at
Rawrgunnaeatyou
...home instead. Everyone is different, the story is beautiful and much more important than the funeral. <3
notacobra
When I die, barring unforeseen tragedy, it will be on my own terms when I choose. I can't stop people mourning, but it will be my choice.
ThatOneFriendWhoTriesTooHard
jayman0123
sound
Ajdamus
Since I dropped mother Ashes to a river I won't go to funerals. They are depressing. This was not. It was actually.."nice" event considering
kamikaye
Beautiful writing. Thanks for sharing this deep insight.
NaughtButOne
I'm of the mind that a person isn't gone so long as some part of them endures in the world. Your memories, and ultimately the person you've>
NaughtButOne
>become, every bit carries a piece of him. I wouldn't have gone to the funeral either. Funerals commemorate the dead, and Jacob >
NaughtButOne
> is alive inside of you.
jetact12
Beautiful. A just tribute to a great friend. Sorry for your loss.
Erumun
my mom didn't want a funeral or service, she didn't want people showing up when they spent years not calling or visiting.
thaGh0stD0g36
If words can be weapons your words just beat those spears into plowshares. Thanks for sharing. We are all broken toys
MrCheesebiscuit
What black heart downvotes this?!
SerenePrincess013
The assholes who still think this website is the "teehee" 4chan memes, only.
tizme
Possibly some in the same situ, greiving, and in pain, not coping. Made me bawl, but upvoted for sure!
Okebel
Automated downvote bots.
Zzap1
Funerals are for the living, a ceremony to say goodbye. Not attending isn't disrepsectful, everyone grieves differently. Beautifully written
FabergeBurrito
Organized moms memorial in Jan. This seems like its own eulogy. a lovely one that doesn't need to be read to anyone they don't want to.
Kryton1
Well said
Richter12x2
Exactly. Some people need to share experiences with others to process. It doesn't help if others won't understand anyway.
SoraHjort
For an example, can't stand them. Because to me, they taint the memories of when they were alive, intruding into the forefront instead of >
SarcasticComment
yup. wife had a cousin catholic buried who would be 100% against that. the living often do what they wish with the memory of the dead.
SoraHjort
when I last saw them and they were smiling. I rather remember them smiling and happy than surrounded by the mourning.
ShibbyChibi
This! Why do people insist that you stand casket side and stare down? That image will burn away any decent memory I ever held of them
godskook
Its not just to say goodbye, but also to come together. I've gone to several funerals more for others than myself.
Onsvaltti
I have avoided funerals as long as I can remembet, because my mental health is fragile. Now I'm facing lots of pet funerals in a short-
Onsvaltti
period of time, and the heartbreak is so intense I feel like I'm dying, my heart is getting ripped out. I have to face it, but I'm weak.
Onsvaltti
My mom's old cat died of cancer this month, and only 2 days after his diagnose, my old cat also got diagnosed with cancer. God dammit...
Onsvaltti
My boy is still alive, but not knowing how long he has is worse than knowing. Stress is slowly eating me.
jazorn
Today I go to make funeral arrangements for my oldest son. They are definitely for the living. Damn it's insane. Please wear your seat belts
idownvoteyouall
Just thinking of having to do that for my daughter broke me, be as strong as you can and im sorry for your loss
djpotter3
I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine your grief.
Chickenmakesmetired
He will always live in the hearts of those who knew him and those whose lives he touched without even knowing. I'm sorry you've lost him
kimbaloo
I’m so sorry
deanobruce
I am deeply and sincerely sorry for your loss.
thelonepig
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard that is. I hope you have a strong support system. We love you.
Micah1966
Oh man that's rough.. as a mom this would kill me.. I am so sorry for your loss.
dpat13
Fuck, I am so sorry. Not the natural order of things
kriigern
Breaks my heart to hear you are going through that m8 :( So sorry to hear that.
practicallyperfect
I’m so very sorry.
Dontdeprivemeofmydelusion
I'm so sorry for your loss.
starflyerwithoutfuel
3lda002
I wish you and your family peace and healthy grief when needed. My condolences <3
jazorn
Thank you all for your kind words. It is a long road ahead, but we will make it through for his kids
Senguie
I am sorry for your loss. No parent should bury a child. My condolences are sadly the only thing I can offer.
IOnlyFavoriteDickButtAndImNotEvenMad
ahorseelbowdeepinme
There are two schools of thought on this. Either there's nothing after death and the only feelings your friend had were during life in which
Imalwaysready
Wait, there's only two schools of thought on the afterlife and how it does or doesn't work!? I got like 8 billion people I need to tell!
ahorseelbowdeepinme
They all boil down to those two for the most part. I guess there's reincarnation but that more or less falls into the first school.
ahorseelbowdeepinme
Case it sounds like you gave him a literal lifetime of love and acceptance or there IS an afterlife and he knows how you feel about him and
ahorseelbowdeepinme
His funeral and whats in your heart. Either way, he wouldn't want you to fret over this. If he's out there still feeling feelings I'm sure
ahorseelbowdeepinme
He's feeling gratitude.
practicallyperfect
This is beautiful. I hope there is an afterlife, to see my brother again.
ahorseelbowdeepinme
Me too, but the alternative ain't so bad.